How to seduce male friend?

[LambToTheSlaughter]

I have a male friend who I want to seduce. We’re both single but I’m fairly inexperienced and need some tips please. I’m keen to have a long term relationship with him but also want to shag him senseless! Sorry if TMI!

How can I seduce him while maintaining his respect?

I think he thinks of me as his friend’s cute little sister rather than the strong woman that I am. I need to get rid of the nice, innocent image in his mind.

Please help! I need practical advice.

Seducing him is a very long pathway and has often led to sexual coercion, aka sexual assault.

Surely it would be better to ask a man how HE wants to be asked out?

I mean this is the kindest way possible and have been in your shoes before..... unless the attraction is mutual and he really sees you for you, thinks your amazing and perfect just the way you are then you are only setting yourself up for future pain.

However if you wanted to play with your overall look, for yourself, then there’s a tonne of things you could do to be seen in a different light!
Red lippy, hair styled different, a new look clothes wise, etc

I don’t intend to sexually assault him! I’m not looking to coerce him! I thought that he’d want to be seduced.

Thanks LuluBellaBlue.

Sorry Lamb, I do not think seduction is your way forward.

Just go out for drinks, meals and cinema and he may feel differently about you.

Be fairly hands on, but not in an intimidating way, and it may work out ok.

FuriousVexation I wonder if you should get out more?

Op, have you tried flirting a bit? Or doing something physical with him like going climbing, that can stir up the hormones and get him to notice your assets(!)
Or watch a movie which was s a bit rampant ( not 50 shades, anything but that).
Or you could just ask him, could you fancy me?

Oh my word. Saying it could lead to sexual assault is like saying going into a shop could lead to shoplifting! Yes, it could - if you were a criminal!

Invite him out for drinks/dinner and get drunk and flirty

I was thinking about inviting him for drinks but kind of hoped he’d make the first move. Or if I could give him some kind of signal that says, if you asked me out I’d say yes!

How often do you actually set eyes on each other, and in what sort of circumstances?

Surely it would be better to ask a man how HE wants to be asked out?

Eh? How would that conversation even go?

Fucking bizarre.

Seducing him is a very long pathway and has often led to sexual coercion, aka sexual assault.

LMAO. I genuinely think there must be one person with lots of name changes who just aims to make the first post on every thread absolutely batshit.

kind of hoped he’d make the first move.

I think this is the worst way to approach it. Just be direct and honest, after laying some flirty groundwork.

Definitely no sexually assaulting him though :-)

Is there a spark there now?

Sorry to sound naive but don’t guys like to be the ones to chase and catch the girl? I have asked a few guys out and it’s never come to anything. The two relationships that I had where the guy was really keen were when he asked me out first.

I think there’s definitely a spark but I think he’s scared of getting hurt. His last 3 girlfriends broke up with him and I think he’s wary.

We tend to see each other at family gatherings. Our families are close.

About every 6-8 weeks.

I might be dense but what does seducing mean exactly, in this context?

By seducing I mean I want to kiss him and ultimately have sex with him a few weeks later.

Sorry to sound naive but don’t guys like to be the ones to chase and catch the girl? I have asked a few guys out and it’s never come to anything. The two relationships that I had where the guy was really keen were when he asked me out first.

That's my experience too.

Look good and flirt when you see him, is alI can suggest. Show an interest in him and give him openers for further contact.

Seduction means having think they DID do the chasing.... you don’t seduce by chasing (or assaulting ;)).

You seduce by creating the space for desire and the potential for pleasure. It’s low voiced wit, candlelit shoulder curves, a slight touch - did it mean or didn’t it? A look filled with promise and delight.

time for some Dangerous Liaisons reruns for some on this thread I think - or failing that have a squiz at the Art of Seduction by John Greene it is so much fun.
I wouldn’t worry about “the ethics of manipulation” you can’t keep anyone’s attention long if they didn’t want you in the first place. Unless this is 18c France and you are intent of ruining reputations of trapped aristocrats and virgins? Seduction just gets you from A to B in the most fun way - unless you are accompanying it with blackmail or abduction it can’t magic you to C.