He said respect is earned

[Canthearthroughmyglasses]

So I am one of those boring people who lead a normal life. I have few but good friends. I have been seeing this guy who said this to me. What would you say to them? I have never done anything on his behalf, or anyone’s for that matter, so I was quite surprised to be honest, your thoughts?

Please tell us you're going to leave him OP?

Tell him to jog on.

What a knob.

I have made myself very clear to him that I won’t be spoken to like that, it’s just not for me I am afraid. So he has been binned.

Good for you

👏👏👏👏 well done OP!!

Oh phew! You sometimes hear people say, "I won't put up with that," but then they do nothing when it happens. I'm glad you've acted decisively.

Ok lets for argument sake say that we agree with his sentiment (which we don't) is he earning your respect in an way?

He’s right, respect has to be earned but his his disregard for your feelings shows a lack of respect that you don’t deserve. Do not waste any more of your time on this fool.

CuriousaboutSamphire and MyCatHogstheBed

So we basically agree 😁 that’s what I meant by the usual universal considerations, the basic premise that we are equal in respect of bodily autonomy, freedom of movement, right to express our opinions.
I do reserve judgement on what I suppose could be described as someone’s character until I know them well. Occasionally, I have decided that someone isn’t worthy of respect on the basis of their opinions or actions so have not continued the association. That kind of respect does have to be earned.

great, OP !

Respect!

Well done OP.

My abusive ex used to say this to me.

Run!

What would I have said? Nothing.
I would have slammed the door on my way out!

Glad to see that he has been kicked into touch OP, well done you!

So he has been binned.

Very glad to hear it.

🎉🎉🎉🎉 good news op