Hey everyone I'm new on here.
I have been in a relationship for 4 years and have 2 children with him.
Last Xmas we had an argument as usual and he left, and spent 3 weeks at his family's house getting drunk and coked up and texting me abuse as always.
Enough was enough for me. I told him it was over and next.came the accusations as to I must be sleeping with someone else etc.and the guilt tripping how he would lose his job if I didn't let him back.he bullied his way back.
Silly me thought he won't listen to words that it's over so I'll show him actions.
Now 4 months down the line and he's still here.i don't go near him. We always argue. I don't love him I've told him this repeatedly.
I'm not sure if he stays out of spite or because he has nowhere really to go. He fell out with his family after Xmas. Yet another long story after his sister told me what he had been up to there behind my back. Of course he denied it and called her a liar. More than one person has told me things about him yet he always says they're lying.
Anyway.. It's over 100% in my eyes.
But I can't make him listen! He just carries on as though I've not said it! It's not normal
And I feel so depressed and trapped. I daydream about how much better my life will be with him gone. But every time I get my hopes up that he's listened,they get dashed.
I don't know what to do anymore. Making me feel as though I just have to live this way. Why wont he just leave? He's a grown man,he works,he can find his own place and go! So why is he just not listening?
I'd appreciate any advice at all I'm desperate....