I am posting in the hope someone can offer some advice. I really don't know what to do.
There is a lot to this so I'll outline the main bits and can give more info as needed.
I've been with DH 7.5 yrs, married 2.5, 1 year old and in early stages of unplanned second pregnancy.
DH works away, he is only here 12 days per month. When we met he did so much, I felt very special to him and we grew serious quickly. I was not wholly satisfied sexually but he was such a nice man I really fell for him.
As time went by he communicated less when he was away for work. I suppose the honeymoon phase wore off but I felt less special and often had to say I wanted more kisses, hugs, affection . He was falling into the pattern of being affectionate only when it was leading to sex. Although i have a higher sex drive so was initiating before he did. In the past, whenever I had an issue I would always say, he would apologisr for being complacent and thungs would improve for a few months then same issues.
He always wanted children and was over the moon when I fell pregnant after 1 yr 3 months trying. We had a blip before this He kbows I cannot abide liars, partly due to an earlier abusive relationship with man who turned out to be a compulsive liar. DH has always known lying is a dealbreaker for me. Trying to conceive took a while and he had a couple of big nights out away from home. I asked him not to drink (knowing he cannot have just a couple, would get very drunk) as this kills sperm. He told me he wouldn't drink then I read a message from his friend where they were laughing at how drunk they'd been. When confronted, and I did apologise for reading his message, he was pissed off with me for invading his privacy. He did apologise for lying but that chipped away at my feelings for him. Eapecially as he knew I was worried conception was not happening.
He was so caring during the pregnanxy and post birth. It was a very traumatic birth, I had PTSD until recently, my child and I had a week in hospital inc NICU and I have lasting physical damage and an ongoing clinical negligence case. He had 6 weeks at home and did everything. He was amazing. I felt so in love with him.
Over the course of last year, he did less in home and I tried to recover physically and mentally, attending 2-5 hospital appointments monthly, care for our baby and run house. I had all the mental load. Whilst he is a great dad, I felt like I had 2 children as I was always picking up after him. I felt like the mum of the house. He would do jobs but only if asked, he did a bit on own initiative but not loads. I brought it up so many times, he was annoyed but then would improve then back to square one. It really impacted my love for hom. MIL was awful last year too and he didnt believe me for ages, said he did but not convincingly, things were said to me when he was out of room. Eventually he saw begaviour himaelf and cgallenged her then she changed overnight 
Finally this Jan he was like a new man doing equal share of housework etc and trying to take on household responsibility. I asked him what changed, he referenced the last year, what I'd told him and he said what could he really say? that I had been right. This all slipped, the renewed efgirt, and I felt like communication getting worse. I asked him to go to marriage counselling last year he eventually agreed to go this March. It was really cathartic for me. The counsellor told him she thought I had mentally left the relationship and I said nothing, as at points I had. After the sesdion he was upset and I also told him I was not enjoying sex with him. I thought we would get through and be stronger with help of counsellor. I apologised for hurtful comments even if true .
When we met he had a motorbike. I used to ride wuth him, very fast. He has terrible speeding record. He had an accident and bike was written off. Before trying to conceive, I asked if he had plans to get another one he said no. I asked as he has a dangerous job and I didnt want children with someone with a dangerous hobby too. Ive known too many people seriouslu injured or dead on bikes.He said no. After baby born he got a flashy car and said he'd not get a motorbike as the car satisfied the urge. Recently he began mentioning getting a bike I thought he was joking. Then he said he was getting one. He said he wasnt lying before that he had changed his mind and now wanted one. I asked him not to, suggested he took up gym , sport team or roadbiking, old hobbies when we met. He said no. I asked to at least delay the decision as the timing was awul my PTSD was crippling and we were beginning marriage counselling. Marriage counsellor could see both sides. After first counselling session, we cuddled up and spokeloads, we both said we hadnt spoken as much in over a year. I felt hopeful and told him I still caredforhim. I asked on two nights if he was going to get a motorbike and he said he didnt know. He dropped the bombshelk that he had already bought it as we were taking dd to a class the bext day, I cried so much and he just said come on we'll be late. He had lied by omission the previoys two nights as he had already bought the bike. He said he bought it w
as he thought he didnt have me anymore. He woulnt cancel purchase as hed lose deposit. I felt backed into a corner. He has told more lies since, he was only going to do track days not take out on road (came home one day to house a mess and he had pissed off out on bike) he told me he would get life insurance and do a refresher bike course. Nothing done but he has spent lits of ti.e orderimg thungs for his bike.
He says I am controlling, he never does anything right.
The marriage counsellor told him to tighten up and that she cpuld shake him for getting bike at that moment and talked about the lying. After session he initially said I mustve spoken to her privately so she would take my side!
He has been aggressively shouting at me recently but then apolgetic eventually.
He thinks its just a bike but so many issues hes in denial of
He keepstrying to justify lies but says it was unacceptable. Ive asked him to move out so I have space but he says hes done nothing to warrant that.
He keeps saying he doesnt wa t to loseme and asking what he can do but Ive told him he needs to thinkhimselfim not telling him
I should point out he is a high earner and Ive been financially dependent on him since early. I am a SAHM now and earn a wage from his conpany but he's paid it less often in recent months due to big tax bill and buying his bike , imo.