The next stage of my life WILL be better...

[Dumbledior]

New thread for me to moan...

well as someone said previously, at least you are giving it a go, and hopefully it will work

if it doesnt tho, then you know you have tried your very hardest

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Well done, Dior, and really happy that H is making the effort - and you, too. It WILL take time, but it looks like your shocking declaration has worked so far. And it won't do YOU any harm to continue to think in terms of being independent - we all need to believe that we can manage on our own - it's empowering - and it means men don't take us for granted. When I got married, a little old lady at the church advised me to make sure I always knew how the household finances functioned, as well as how to sort out plumbers, fuseboxes, the central heating etc. Her husband had died suddenly after years of doing all the traditional 'man's stuff and she was completely lost. It's not bad advice and it means that, if H slides again, you won't feel so scared of stepping out alone as you have done.

• guess we're all proud of you!

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Those feelings that you had for G won't just disappear but hopefully if you are now committed to making things work with H (or DH now?) you will get through.

Sending you loads of good wishes.

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ok, sort out your life and stop being a pillock ! But seriously, forget G, he's just a very small fly in a large jar of ointment. And DON't give up your job. You enjoy it, and it gives you independence.

Don't leave your job Dior. You will get over it - remember what you were saying to me

He's doing the same as mine, realing you in when he thinks your not interested then as soon as you start being friendly he's acting like an idiot again.

And if he looks good from behind, just remember, he's probably got a very small todger (just remembering your comments on the '5 things I love about him' thread !

DIOR!!! (yes I'm shouting at you )

Agree with MoH - G is definitely doing what her bloke does. The minute he sees you happy and moving on he tries to reel you back in. It works every time, then you start showing interest again, and then he backs off!!

Dior yes you obviously have made an impression on him and he does keep coming back. But he's proved he is so not worth it! At all!

And why does any of that even matter anymore?! All of your thoughts and attention should be on you and H. On the decision you've both made to give your relationship everything you can. End of story!

You were sounding so positive. Remembering the love you felt, feelings coming back... it was all good.

Now G starts acting up again and you're feeling down and confused. He doesn't matter!!
Don't mean to be harsh in any way But should you leave your job over him?!
No way! Ignore him. Focus everything you have on you and H. Please!!

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Don't think about G or the barber... Ever!

Even if H is tired in the week you can still do small things to look forward to each evening. Cook your favourite meals, get favourite bottle of wine as a treat, watch a film you both love, cuddle up on the sofa, watch tv, bubble bath (alone or together!), chat about things you both enjoy, plan for the weekend and dates together, look at old holiday photos and laugh about all the memories... it's those small things that you'll both appreciate and won't have realised you've missed.

Focus all of your thoughts on you and H - it's the best way
And whenever your thoughts drift, send H an e-mail or a text saying something nice... I bet you'll feel much better for it

Btw sorry for going on!

I just know that I would have given anything in this world to have had a second chance with H before it was too late, so I want you to really make a go of it and be happy - for me! - because I love happy endings!!

I agree with Baffy, everytime you think about one of the others send dh a text, telling him you're looking forward to seeing him or saying something dirty.

The other thing you could do is get a pack of post its and leave little (dirty) little messages where the other will find them.

yep, like telling him 5 things you love about him (including his large ahem - and get him to reciprocate .

I tried doing that by texting 5 things to dp in Germany - but his phone's run out of credit so I've had nothing back !!

sorry did i miss something? barber?!

Dior's son has a very attractive barber - but she hasn't mentioned him lately - h has reacquired greater charms .

she's a saucy one!

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