How would you take this comment?

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I suspect this is very trivial, but I'm a bit at a comment made by a friend. I felt it was a bit rude, but not sure if I'm being overly sensitive.
The friend - well, I use the term a bit loosely - is a guy I went on a couple of dates with, but I decided I wasn't interested in him romantically. Regardless, he seems keen to keep in touch as friends and messages me most days. I'm happy enough to go along with this, as he's a nice, intelligent and interesting person.
I am rather overweight, as I love food and overeat a bit
I wished him a Happy Easter today, and he asked if I'd eaten lots of chocolate. I said yes, and he replied 'same as every other day then'.
Would you be a bit by this? I am normally very good at taking responsibility, but this seems a bit presumptuous and rude from someone I don't know well at all.

He wouldn't be a friend any more. Tell him to shut the door on the way out.

Thanks. I'm not normally a particularly sensitive person, so wasn't sure if it was just me.
I know he'd have meant it as a joke, but still ...

He obviously knows you really like your food and probably assumes because you are pretty overweight that you do overeat.

It was an unnecessary comment all the same

Is he trying to get his own back for being rejected by putting you down?

He doesn’t sound at all nice. Don’t let him away with it, OP.

Agreed!

I replied 'Rude!' to which he said 'who, me?!'

Yanbu op I'd be pissed off, I'd reply saying its non of his buisness

Have just reread and it actually said 'same as every other day? :-D

‘Yes, it was rude. If you can’t see this, please don’t contact me again.’

In all honesty? I don’t think he meant any harm. Obviously I don’t know the guy but from the sounds of it, he really likes you as a friend and was probably just trying to be funny/jokey but it obviously has not been taken that way. Although he made a flippant/stupid comment, I certainly don’t think it’s serious enough to lose a friendship over.

A snide dig at your weight

It's a tough one, as I really did like him as a person.

I'd laugh and agree with him. Cheeky bastard.

Helmlover, I would totally agree with you IF we knew each other better. But we don't (we met for the first time only a few weeks back), so it just feels a bit awkward and uncomfortable now.

I think it depends on how he said it,was it with a smile or in a nasty tone? I have a male heavy family and that's the sort of comment we would make to each other. Even to the skinny ones.

Goose, my family are super sarky too! But it's ok coming from them.

If you only contact him recently, I'd bin him off. I'm sure he didn't mean anything nasty by it, but its clear he had a case of foot in mouth.

On to the next!

I think it is exceptionally uncool to make jokes about physical attributes. I don't think it was malicious, but for sure really insensitive. Do you really want people that are that insensitive in your life? You run the risk of ongoing invalidation from this one.

I'd be wary of the fact that he's messaging you most days anyway op. You've told him you're not romantically interested, do you think he's hoping you'll change your mind? I have best friends I don't message every day.

I know what you mean. This isn't a stealth boast - as after all, we all know I'm a fattie! - but I am attractive, and kind. I do seem to attract sorts that are sometimes a bit hard to shake off.

Do you like chocolate? Is it your thing? My sister loves chocolate and really struggles to not eat it, but she has to due to her health. So I could send her that, she would tell me to fuck off and we would have a laugh about it.

I would think that unless he is normally a nasty bastard, he was trying to have a laugh and failed spectactularly.

next he will say it was a joke, cant you take a joke?
or
your so sensitive
he is a bully and while its subtle right now his comments may get more direct in time, naturally under the guise of being concerned about you, your health etc

No way would I take this as light hearted, he's being rude and insulting you and personally I wouldn't bother with him again.

Do you have a banter-y typeof relationship? If so, I would perhaps take it as a flippant remark. However, it is a bit rude and insensitive.

Also, it seems a bit weird that you only met a few weeks ago, and you decided to take it no further, that he messages you everyday. I don’t do that with family, friends etc who i’ve Known for years.

If you just met him a few weeks ago, he shouldn't be so comfortable trying to make jokes about your weight. He seems bad news and if you let him get away with that now he will probably get nastier in the future.