How do people move on so fast?

[PiperRepeater]

I see threads started by posters who have come out of long term relationships and marriages, and are 6-12 months down the line and already dating or in new (serious) relationships and it baffles me.

I split up with my ex just over a year ago and can't even contemplate the idea of dating anyone, let alone love/live together/marriage, for as far as I can see in my future.

I have grieved the past relationship and accepted my new life, so it's not like I am clinging onto misguided hope or anything. I just can't fathom the idea of venturing myself into a position where I am vulnerable like that again. I cannot understand how people just leap straight into it without a care.

Honestly not judging, just wondering why I am the odd one out.

(NC'd for privacy)

Asleep - what an odd thing to say. I am not sure why you would assume everyone wants a relationship- there is no value in a relationship for me, I don't need company, I don't want support for anything, I don't want conversation with someone every day. Why would I need a relationship?

There has been some pushback against OP's question as if the issue is 'why wouldn't you want a relationship?'

My point was that most people do - by having been conditioned, by the rather flat structure of families in society, and through cultural messaging for years and years

I completely respect that there is a category of people who don't want them. And as a single woman who is working on herself right now and learning to finally be happy and single, I'm among that number :)