Husband and wife conversation. Is this OK??

[bananahead6]

Scenario...

Husbands shouts through to wife "can you check the oven in 10/15 mins till I pop to the shop for beans?"

Wife replies, "yeah, but what shop are you going to?" (asks because assumes it is just the wee shop across the road and won't take more than 5 mins)

DS replies "just the coop" (the one just across the road)

Wife replies "on well you won't be 15 mins" (just in a conversational style)

H replies "just check the stuff in ten minutes, I don't need any of your backchat".

What are your thoughts about this conversation?

Up until the backchat comment I was with the husband-what was wrong with saying “OK-will do”.

After the “Backchat” -not so much.

To plan on fifteen minutes to pop over the road means he was doing something else also, and didn’t want to say. So what was that, then?

Ah so you give exact timings to your other half?

It's not hard to understand. I might nip out, plan on being 5 minutes. Something happens (a queue, a problem paying, problem in the shop, bump into someone I know etc) and it could be 15 minutes.

If you haven't asked anyone to check, they may assume it's totally fine to not check at all and the food is ruined. Or you can plan to go and be back in 5 minutes, but also just ask someone to check it if you arent back in 5.

I very much doubt the majority of people expect their partners to account for any extra minutes it's taken them to do a job....do they?

Wife being difficult
Husband giving as good back

Everything the wife said was fine IMO. Why can't she ask which shop he's going to if dinner is very nearly ready. If it's just across the road it won't take more than a few mins which she was clarifying.

Husband sounds irritable & potentially controlling.

'Backchat'? Backchat?

His choice of words tells you everything you need to know about this man. He expects her to STFU and know her place.

Hes a dick.

He could fuck right off with "backchat!"

Well if this was me, I would be fucked off because my dp will always do half a job and at some point everytime ask me to help him out in some way, whereas I've got to do whatever I'm doing and help him with whatever he is doing. If he's going to the shop across the road I wouldn't expect him to be 15 mins. If DP told me in a serious way that he didn't need any of my back chat I would probably give him a a slap 😂, not really, but he would know not to say it to me again

They both sound irritating but without the full context it’s hard to judge her behaviour.
The word ‘backchat’ though is horrible. It tells you that he considers himself in authority over his wife.

Why can't she ask which shop he's going to if dinner is very nearly ready. If it's just across the road it won't take more than a few mins which she was clarifying.

But the whole exchange was unnessary.

Why did she need to clarify it?

Why did she need to clarify it?*

...because he was implying he'd be 15 mins and it would only take 5 to pop across the road. Sounds like he may have been thinking or going further afield. So she was finding out. Why does that have to be a problem.

And what if he was?

What exactly are you implying?

Do you time your partner everytime they leave the house? Do they time you?

He was being rude but I would've been rude too because that sounds absolutely draining and suffocating.

Backchat?! I expect my husband to speak to our children like that, not me. It’s quite patronising and rude

You expect your husband to be patronising and rude to your children? He sounds a real catch.