Been together with DH for 15 years, we've had our ups and lots of downs. We sleep in separate rooms, he wants to make it work, and keeps telling me to just try because I will never meet anyone better, who will want to be with someone like me. I had a hard life as a child with trauma. I have had 7 years of weekly therapy, and despite the problems I suffered I have never been diagnosed with any mental health problems, it has not stopped me from having a good education, I have a great job, and fabulous social life. He has anxiety, and social anxiety, hardly any friends, and is very shy/introverted. In fact he had addict parents, who he says have not affected his adult life!
Anyway, he says all the problems in our relationship are because of my past, my past affected me so much that I am unable to have healthy relationships, but he is willing to put up with me, in a way someone else would not. He actually said if anyone knew about your past they would run a mile. I know these comments are utterly twatish.
I can't understand why he seems to believe that when we have a relationship issue its to do with us or him, not my past. Example, I tell him to make dc's dinner, as I'm working late, I come home they have not eaten, I get annoyed with him, he says I am like this because of my past. He colonises all my frustrations to my past, not accepting any role in it. This is what he has always done, he is driving me mad!
Any advice you lovely lot....?