No sex = there must be a problem.

[Muggymumma]

Have NCd. Please can anyone help in getting my OH to understand that if we aren't all over each other 24/7 that it doesn't mean I'm "being funny" with him or "off" with him. I don't know how to get round this problem. I can't even relax of an evening as he's so obsessed that I'm not "kissing him normally". For context, we sit next to each other, cuddling, holding hands etc, it's not like I've sat the other side of the room. This is more than enough for me generally. I don't feel the need to be kissing constantly or trying to get in the mood. Is this a case of mismatched needs? Please help!

If you are direct and decisive and open with them about what you will and won't accept in a relationship men don't push their luck if they know what they cannot get away with.

Unless they’re liars, or cheats, or controlling, or manipulative... Some men are astonishingly good at making women feel they’re going crazy. It’s not because boundaries aren’t set, it’s because some men ignore boundaries and it’s difficult to see it happening until it’s too late and we’re walking on eggshells because frankly when a bigger stronger person is screaming in your face you try to do whatever he wants to make it stop. And trying to reason with this person by having an open and honest conversation just leads to more screaming. So no, we can’t prevent it happening by talking about it. All we can do is get out when we see the red flags. And that’s by no means easy.

@CardsforKittens 15:00
I understand your point and it is a good point but have you been with these types of people? Have you come through it? Have you built yourself to be stronger and more resiliant?
I have. This is why I am here. I am here to help.
I am someone who has been through an great deal of dodgy situations in my life and succeeded to get through them. I have built myself to be strong despite the severity of my experiences.
I have been financially, physically and sexually abused in my life by men and I am aware of how to overcome my challenges. Anyone can improve their ability to cope and ability to survive through the worst they just need to be equipped with the correct knowledge and guidance to safeguard themselves and deal with their challenges effectively.
I have conquered and cured epilepsy with brain surgery. I have been homeless 3 times and survived, I had a 6 foot fiance who used to beat me up and sexually assaulted me. I met a player who pretended to have cancer and used me to take £5000 off me. And a false friend got me into debt for the first time after I helped him stay out of trouble and I conquered all my debts and repaid them in 3 months on my own. So I've had a war in life and I am still going. I am not implying I am more superior as I am not that narrow minded I am simply saying the more people you know that can help you the safer you are and the more you can learn from other knowledgeable people to add to your own knowledge the more prepared for anything you will be.
All of us on here care or we wouldn't contribute the information.
If you need any more information let me know x

The message I posted at 15:22 was not only to CardsforKittens it was to everyone including The OP

OP It's never to late to change your life.
STAY STRONG. DONT LET ANYONE BULLY YOU INTO A VULNERABLE POSITION. If you are in danger with your partner then get as far away from them as possible. Only stay with people who care for you who you can trust.