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Wife is cheating....probably

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FirstTimeDadLondon · 20/03/2019 08:18

Firstly apologies for being a dad, I wasn’t sure else where to go.

I recently found out my wife has been cheating (99.9% certain). Our 2 year old uses an old phone to watch peppa etc and I saw pictures and videos she’s been sending to another guy. There was also a few memes from a friend which suggested she’d be going out to have sex on Saturday night - she went out and didn’t return until the very early hours.

My heartbreak is two fold. Firstly because of the cheating and lying, but also the idea of losing my wife and daughter.

My wife suffers with depression and also has a problem with drinking - I feel worried about the idea of me not being around to hold everything together.

I’m at a total loss of what to do.

Should I confront her, knowing it could be the end of our marriage?

Should I collect more evidence?

I still love her, and would be willing to try and work through it, but I’m not sure she will be able to see through the haze she’s currently in.

A million other things bouncing round my head right now but will leave it there.

Advice very very welcome.

OP posts:
stanski · 22/03/2019 20:58

Hope you're ok OP

beenwhereyouare · 24/03/2019 15:38

I'm sure you've been very busy sorting all this out, OP, but we're here for moral support if you need it. Please let us know that you and your daughter are okay.

Thehop · 24/03/2019 17:13

You’re a lovely daddy, you and your dad will survive and you’ll be happy

wishywashy6 · 26/03/2019 10:54

Hi OP, how are you doing?

beenwhereyouare · 14/04/2019 01:57

FirstTimeDadLondon
You said you'd let us know what happens. I hope you'll do that. If you're still checking the thread, please let us know that your family is okay, no matter what you've decided.

FirstTimeDadLondon · 23/12/2019 20:22

Hey - sorry to have gone awol - it’s been a pretty rough few months.

The quick version is, after far too long, I finally had the courage to end things (mixture of fear, guilt, sadness, regret).

My daughter now spends most of her time with me, and is doing incredibly well.

She’s spending Christmas Day with her mum and her family, which is sad, but I’ll survive.

Merry Christmas everyone!

OP posts:
BananaBooBoo · 23/12/2019 23:37

Well done. You made the right decision. Merry Christmas .

BodenGate · 23/12/2019 23:43

Good update! I wish you well.

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