Couples using escorts. Anyone done this?

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Just that really. I'm hoping someone out there has ever desired or done this. Or if fantasies should be kept as just that.

No because the sex industry is horrendous.
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Meh

So a women doesn't have the right to do sex work is it all bad? It's something I'm conflicted about as I don't know anyone that does it.

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Well if you want to pay someone who has possibly been trafficked to pretend to have fun with you fill yer boots.

So a women doesn't have the right to do sex work is it all bad?

The reality of the sex industry is so far away from the idea we’d all like to have about women having the right to use their bodies however they wish

I'm hoping someone who has worked in the industry will respond to this post.
I looked at agencies as my partner doesn't want to explore this with people we know or through dating apps and that was option we were left with. Some agencies really look professional and the girls make out that they love doing it for a job and they have all the freedom they want ect. Maybe I'm just young and niave. I'm bisexual and really want to explore this with my partner as telling him about my desires have brought us really close.

I linked to women who worked in the industry

Eg '"Remembering friend’s I have lost along the way, and taking a glance at all the violence, rape and inhumane activities, I just can’t help but recognize my luck to alive today."

• Mickey Meji, Cape Town, South Africa'

Maybe I'm just young and niave

I think that’s it.

The agencies might look glossy and empowering and all that but it is just marketing. The exploitation is exactly the same.

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Thanks for your responses much appreciated. Sorry if I've offended anyone.

Oh and all the ads (well most of them) will say that they’re bisexual and love seeing couples etc, but again they are just presenting what people want to read. The girls are mostly not bi so will just be going through the motions. Would you enjoy sex with someone who is being paid to act like they’re enjoying it? I definitely wouldn’t.

What is your DP’s objection to meeting someone online?

No

If the issue is that you don't want to do it with someone you know, maybe look more into swinging, swinging websites, or somewhere like fetlife.com as a launchpad.

FWIW, I did enjoy escorting. But this site is very anti that and consider my opinion moot. It is also true that many women don't enjoy it.

I think he doesn't want any strings attached and that's what is appealing about the transaction as that's all it is. Where as if we met someone there could be a chance of things getting complicated. Again we're both young and don't know anything than what we are reading on the glossy websites you discribe. You're probably right in real life it probably wouldn't be how we would imagine but he thinks because we're good looking ect that she would be into us.

I know how stupid all this sounds I have no one other than my partner who I can talk to about this.

That's the thing I mentioned Swinging but he wouldn't want any men to even look at me. So he wouldn't be into that environment. I'm into the fantasy of him with another women and threesomes but he only shares the desire of us with another female. I was ashamed about my fantasy and after years finally told him and its made our love life so great I just want to somehow make it a reality but it doesn't seem achievable the more I think about it.

I worked in the sex industry. It all felt like rape to me (men, women, couples). Ten years later I still have PTSD. If you wanna be part of someone's most traumatic memory then go for it

I was ashamed about my fantasy

Ok well definitely, definitely don’t feel ashamed. Fantasies are great! Sometimes they’re best left as that, sometimes not. If you want this to happen I think you will find the right girl, I just think if you’re paying for it that’s really, really unlikely

Ah, I see. The good old One Penis Policy with a splash of unicorn hunting.

I'm afraid you are looking for a very common fantasy here, and there has to be a little compromise if you want the reality, for most people.

I'm so sorry wq

But this site is very anti that and consider my opinion moot

I don’t at all. I just think sadly you’re in a really really small minority

@namechange I know I am- but I've been shouted down here before as I 'must have been coerced'. I get the point of those who are entirely anti sex trade, I just disagree, but was jumped on completely for being 'wrong'.

But I digress.

Is it really so much important that you need to work with a sex slave for your own momentary pleasure? Grim.