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Couples using escorts. Anyone done this?

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Maybeitsjustmeor · 12/03/2019 20:00

Just that really. I'm hoping someone out there has ever desired or done this. Or if fantasies should be kept as just that.

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wisequartet · 12/03/2019 20:59

Thanks SLPA

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Maybeitsjustmeor · 12/03/2019 21:03

If I was to do this I would meet with the woman for just drinks on my own so I could figure out if she was really comfortable in what she was doing and only go with agency that has reviews and would be spending a lot in the hope that makes it more legit. It wouldn't be just paying for someone to turn up at a hotel I would want to meet with her and see if there's any sort of chemistry as such. An only do what she was comfortable with doing.

That's how I have pictured in my head.
Thanks for no one having ago at me just trying to be as honest as I can.
Again this is a fantasy what I'm picturing.

All your comments have been really helpful.

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Namechangeforthiscancershit · 12/03/2019 21:04

Rixera really sorry to hear that. You can’t really be wrong about your own experiences...

People are odd

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Maybeitsjustmeor · 12/03/2019 21:04

So all sex workers are slaves now?

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SuperLoudPoppingAction · 12/03/2019 21:05

Sorry if this is too personal but have you had relationships with women before?

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Maybeitsjustmeor · 12/03/2019 21:07

Yes before my partner.

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Rixera · 12/03/2019 21:08

I don't think you're being realistic about this

The fact is, she's doing it for pay. I'd say about a quarter to a third of my clients I'd play with for fun. 100% of them thought I would. If she is good at what she does, you will feel chemistry. But she will be there for money.

The up for it, but no romance, bisexual girrl is called a 'unicorn' and couples in search are called 'unicorn hunters' because you are looking for a fantasy. A mythical creature. Lots, and lots of couples hunt unicorns and I call the girls who want to meet first to introduce the would be unicorn to the couple a honey-trap because I do still play with girls, though I'm in a committed relationship with a man, because they always try and play you with the woman first and then stick you with the man after. Because me are two-a-penny whereas women looking to hook up are so much harder to find.

Every time I find out there's a man on the cards I just roll my eyes and cancel now.

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Maybeitsjustmeor · 12/03/2019 21:14

I understand she would only be interested in the money but if she seemed uncomfortable or not seem attracted to me then I wouldn't proceed.
My partner hasn't pushed for anything it's more me that's getting caught up in this fantasy and wanting to make it happen.

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Namechangeforthiscancershit · 12/03/2019 21:16

I understand she would only be interested in the money but if she seemed uncomfortable or not seem attracted to me

I think the problem is, if she’s good at her job she will be able to act like she is into you, but it’s an act.

Rixera · 12/03/2019 21:18

Beat me to it, name change.

Every single client would say I was into them & eager for it. I was good at the GFE.

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Maybeitsjustmeor · 12/03/2019 21:21

But is it wrong then? That's what I'm struggling with the fact that if she chose to do it for work and it's legal. If that makes sense.

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Josuk · 12/03/2019 21:21

If you are anywhere near large cities - try Killing Kittens.
It’s a female run/focused website.
You don’t need to go to parties where other men can see/desire you - oh that would be fair but so terrible according to your bf...
But on their website you can find single women who, like you, want to act out a fantasy with a couple and w/o strings.
Much better that way - then you can be sure there is genuine attraction and co cent

Fraula · 12/03/2019 21:22

Do you think its ok (morally acceptable) to pay for sex? Is it ok to pay for sex with someone who is doing the job out of sheer desperation or has been pushed into it?

Would you really feel comfortable having sex with someone who may well have an STD or has just had sex with several other men?

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Maybeitsjustmeor · 12/03/2019 21:23

I just don't believe everyone who does sex work is trafficked or a drug addict which I think some people assume. I'm looking at agencies where I'd be paying 1000s
Maybe I just want to believe its all legit

So conflicted here not something I'm going to do without really thinking it through

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Rixera · 12/03/2019 21:24

That's up to you! Only you can decide.

Yesssss killing kittens. Don't know why that slipped my mind but haven't been for a while.

I would start reading around the scene. That's why I dropped you the link to fetlife. Just look Into to it more

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Maybeitsjustmeor · 12/03/2019 21:25

Thanks for the suggestion Josuk I'll look into that

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CaptainBrickbeard · 12/03/2019 21:27

A lot of women in the industry don’t choose to do it for work - a lot are coerced, trapped, exploited etc. It is not just another job. What you are contemplating is very wrong.

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Maybeitsjustmeor · 12/03/2019 21:31

The killing kittens sounds good. I looked at fetlife but looked a bit messy and confusing

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Fraula · 12/03/2019 21:31

I just don't believe everyone who does sex work is trafficked or a drug addict

Fine. Probably true. But it's fair to say that a great deal are.

I just don't believe you should be able to buy a woman in this way. It's demeaning to the individual and to all women. Not everyone shares my opinion, but that's how I see it.

Bambii · 12/03/2019 21:40

@Maybeitsjustmeor is your fantasy really worth risking getting some sort of STI? Look up HPV - once a woman gets it, she can never get rid and it causes cervical cancer and mouth cancer. HPV can be transmitted orally to genitals or to mouth. So, your boy could be wearing a condom and that would mean absolutely nothing for safety. You'd both still be at risk of getting this and other horrid and potentially permanent diseases.

If she's a regular working girl, chances are she has caught something else too. Condoms are not 100% all of the time. Do you really want to risk that for one lusty fantasy night? You could regret it for the rest of your life. The reality will be completely different.

Also, the one of the two key words here is "working girl". This is their work to pay their rent, to feed their children, it's not a fake porn film.

Pinkybutterfly · 12/03/2019 21:43

Fabswingers just have a look out what u guys want and see who you meet. You don't need to have strings and sex is more fun if everyone enjoys it

wisequartet · 12/03/2019 21:59

Even if she's not a drug addict or trafficked she's most likely a survivor of childhood sexual abuse. Think about what it takes to do the job...being able to disconnect and dissociate from the body (a skill that is learn (taught) very early) Alongside an absence of self value and self preservation. No girl is born with that. I'm not having a go at you OP. There are just so many myths and silences and obscurations around the lives of so-called sex workers.

18yearsoftrying · 13/03/2019 07:08

So this is your 3rd thread, making your second one a complete lie......

Shehz21 · 13/03/2019 07:20

@18yearsoftrying Hmmm I was wondering whether I saw a post from OP about her partners risky behavior around baby.....

anniehm · 13/03/2019 07:54

I'm sure the right person does exist, just would have no idea how you find them. Not all sex workers are in drugs, trafficked or both - I've encountered someone who did do this line of work and "retired" in her 40's on the proceeds, might be the exception though