Do I need to explain myself to this man or certain things are not worth explaining?
Long story short, I have recently met a really nice man and we get on so well. We are meeting again tonight. Every time, we meet, chat or text, he keeps asking if my children have got in contact with me. I have three adult children and he has two. He was not present in his children's life when they were younger and has recently got back into their lives and trying to rectify things - taking them out for dinner, going to the cinema with them and doing all family stuff that he should have done when they were young. Well he is trying to be the full-time dad that he was not able to do (he left to be with the OW)
However, I was a single mother to my boys - I am not a rich woman but worked so hard to give them almost everything. I think I spoilt them but my boys had always been selfish, now that they have left home, I do not get much contact for them - only when they want something, if I needed their help and try to contact them, they would ignore my calls, texts or emails. I have never received even mother's day card or birthday cards from my boys. However, if they wanted something, they would call, emails, text multiple times and I always end up giving them whatever it was they were asking for. Relationships with my boys have always been a one way and I do not expect that to change anytime soon.
Why is this man trying to make me feel so guilty that my boys do not contact me?