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He's left me very confused

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Cr20 · 10/03/2019 20:06

Hiya there , as you all seen before my ex text me saying he wasn't interested and didn't want an us and I accepted and just left as is and took all your advise.

Anyways I had our sons first birthday party on the 16th a few days after I posted about him saying that and he came with his mum and his brother and we co-parented for our child's sake to make it a good day for him. After that day we have been getting closer and closer , like he's been trying to text me a lot more and keeps messaging me out the blue a few days after not speaking that he misses our lo and to tell him that he loves him etc.

Anyways last Friday he went out with mates and asked to see lo as he's got a new job working away and only gets to see lo on a Saturday overnight. I agreed and he came over and was playing about with our son and then asked me to call him a taxi home which I did.

The taxi called to say it was outside and we walked him out and he kissed our son goodbye and then kissed my cheek and pulled me in and kissed me passionately on the lips. It all just happened out of the blue and so quickly I never even had the chance to say what you doing. He then says my taxi is there I need to go and that was it. He text me when he got in saying I just miss him so much when I don't get to see him. I never mentioned the kiss as I don't want it to ruin that we've just started getting along for lo.

But I'm left very confused and have mixed emotions. Is he confused ? Why'd you think he done it ??

Sorry I had to write and get it off my chest , been overthinking every night and it's messed with my head.

OP posts:
LaughingCow99 · 14/03/2019 08:15

Shatnerswig I honestly don't have time to read every thread, and even if this was the op's 10th thread, your post was beyond cruel.

Do you know much about self esteem? Have you studied it and worked with people that have it? Because I have. People with low self esteem can't just get over it or leave an abuser or unhealthy relationship because it is obvious they should. If only it were that easy.

They will in fact cling to hope and breadcrumbs of affection that in their mind allows them to believe things will be ok, can get better. It's why this poster is drawn to hopeful posts.

The op clearly needs therapy. No doubt she already feels utterly worthless without you ramming it home in your new approach.

tessiegirl · 14/03/2019 18:19

Thank you LaughingCow.
These people clearly don't have a clue how low self esteem affects someone.
I was met with repetitive sarcasm when I tried to voice my concerns for their bad attitude.

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