Ending a relationship for no valid reason

[Passmeagin]

So I have decided today to put an end to my 6 month relationship. We haven't been together long but he completely adores and loves me. (He tells me all the time) I sound horrible but I just don't feel the same.
He's kind and generous and loving. However he can be very needy. I like my space and am a busy single mum so some nights I just want to be on my own but he'll always messsge saying how much he misses me and nags to come over. I've discussed this with him and he says he'll stop but never does. He doesn't really have any friends and says I'm all he needs. Whereas I'm very sociable with a large group of mates.
Basically what I'm asking is has anyone ended a relationship with someone who hadn't actually done anything wrong or hurt you. You just weren't feeling it. I just know it's going to hurt him and he's going to get emotional. I feel like such a bitch

Well done! I'm so glad he showed his true colours. It'll help you move on.

Well done, Pass - horrible for you the way he acted, but in a way it must make it easier for you to stand firm.

@TheFloofyOne oh my god. I am so sorry you went through that and at such a young age. Good on you for getting out of that relationship!

@Mrsmummy90 @FetchezLaVache you're right. I find it so much easier now he's acted like that

Thanks Pass. I think it’s easier to walk away from these things at a younger age. In a way, I’m almost glad I met him as it helped me set very clear boundaries with subsequent relationships.

Well done on breaking up with your boyfriend. Stay strong, and stay angry if you need to.

I don't think my post was bossy. Concise and direct but not bossy.

Bloody well done you for standing up for yourself, especially when he started the gaslighting nonsense. I too have mh conditions and get pissed off when people try and use them to excuse THEIR bad behaviour.

Showed his true colours didn't he? Thought he was "doing you a favour" by "taking you on" er...not!

Made it a bit easier for you I hope. As you say confirmed you'd made right decision.

Hopefully you know now to trust yourself, to trust your gut. We (women) are so socialised to please and to ignore our instincts, when of course they exist for a reason, but we're bombarded by mixed info on this. Very hard to go against such conditioning.

Also, while its lovely to read of people in lovely equal, nurturing relationships there's a lot of pros to being single too. I've had a few relationships since splitting with dds dad but they haven't panned out for various reasons. Nice enough people, just didn't work out. I've been properly single about 2 years at this point. I went from being a serial monogamist around your age to I'm quite content being single for now. Not saying I'll always be but I'm in no hurry to find a relationship.

Then he turned a bit nasty and said well good luck finding a nice guy like me again. Who else would want some crazy woman like you with all your baggage

Wow! Well that was close to the surface!! Well done on staying firm OP and glad you've blocked him. Sounds like his mask slipped and you dodged a Narcissist. He won't have been happy that his love bombing has come to nothing and he has to move onto a new victim.

I'm assuming he never had any keys to your home. If so do change your locks ASAP even if he gave his set back to you. Also lock down your security on your Facebook and other accounts so he has no way of seeing any of your posts. Phew! 🌈🍫🍷

I feel I owe it to him

It's 6 months you've given him a chance to change, he's ignored you

Ring him

Tell him

Block him

Done

And rtft Gina

Don't beat yourself up about missing red flags. It sounds to me like you picked up on them pretty well.

I had exactly the same thing.
And he really tried to cling-on!
Showed his true colours and confirmed my instincts were right.
On paper he was perfect.
Just not perfect for me.
Well done on ending it.
After I'd blocked mine I got hand delivered letters etc....
So watch out for those.
I just ignored them all.
He got the message eventually.

Just watched the episode of cold feet where she chucks a glass in Adams face and turns psycho , seriously OP , he wasn’t for you. I remember my gran when I divorced saying ‘I don’t understand it, he doesn’t hit you, you aren’t Short of money’. Seriously that’s how low some people’s bars are . He will be perfect for someone else who is needy

Well done passmethegin. It's behind you.

I recommend a great book by catherine gray about being single. It's a really good book about being single, way better than the average tosh. Little bit of psychology, sociology, blowing myths apart, attachments styles, philosophy...... I read it nodding along and laughing!