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DP past criminal behaviour coming to light?

75 replies

happytiredmummy · 26/02/2019 11:06

Would you end it with your DP if you found out he had been done for harassment and had a restraining order against him?

This has happened in two past relationships and he doesn't know that I know.

OP posts:
practicallyperfectmummy · 26/02/2019 11:08

Yes 100% walk away. Have you been together very long? Is it a surprise to you knowing him and finding out about past behaviours?

Bananalanacake · 26/02/2019 11:08

Depends how long you have been together and is he controlling.

Clutterbugsmum · 26/02/2019 11:09

How did you find out.

I would be finding the safest and quickest way to get out of this relationship.

FleeceDetective · 26/02/2019 11:09

He’s done it twice?? Yep.

tasmaniandevilchaser · 26/02/2019 11:09

Yes. Without a doubt. If this is a surprise to you then you don’t really know him.

Littlechocola · 26/02/2019 11:09

Absolutely

kbPOW · 26/02/2019 11:09

In a heartbeat! Please take advice about the safest way to end things and call the police if there is anything untoward.

hellsbellsmelons · 26/02/2019 11:10

Yes - Call 101 and ask them about Clare's Law.
But walk away.
This is twice.
The guy is not nice and will stalk you if you continue with this.
He's no doubt abusive and controlling too.
Run - far and fast!
THE HILLS ARE THAT WAY >>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>

Canthearthroughmyglasses · 26/02/2019 11:11

You won’t be the person who will change him. I gave had a restraining order made and there have to be really valid reasons to hand them out. He may not be showing you any sides to him yet but why wait

AnneLovesGilbert · 26/02/2019 11:12

Bloody hell. Yes of course I’d walk away.

How did you find out?

TeaStory · 26/02/2019 11:12

Yes.

pissedonatrain · 26/02/2019 11:22

Yes, of course walk away!

Lamkin · 26/02/2019 11:23

Run run run.

SexNotJenga · 26/02/2019 11:24

Like pp said, make an application under Clare's law. Then talk to the police dv unit for advice on leaving safely.

downcasteyes · 26/02/2019 11:25

Oh my God, yes I absolutely would.

But please take some advice from a charity (wonder if Womens' Aid could help?) about how to do this safely.

Good luck.

SexNotJenga · 26/02/2019 11:25

Abusers don't change. They don't accept that what they did was wrong. That's why they keep doing it.

Katterinaballerina · 26/02/2019 11:26

I’d end it, but very carefully. Do you live with him?

Nquartz · 26/02/2019 11:27

End it immediately, he is seriously bad news.

beenandgoneandbackagain · 26/02/2019 11:29

Yes, yes, yes and as safely as possible.

Don't be fooled that he will change for you.

DioneTheDiabolist · 26/02/2019 11:34

I would end it without hesitation OP. Are you thinking of staying with him?

Tennesseewhiskey · 26/02/2019 11:36

For those offences.....yes absolutely.

BiscuitDrama · 26/02/2019 11:39

I don’t see how there could be an explanation for it happening twice. I’d want to find out more, but whatever I could find I’d plan to leave.
Be careful.

whitehorsesdonotlie · 26/02/2019 11:40

In two relationships? Hell, yes. Run away.

ravenmum · 26/02/2019 11:41

I would end it very carefully, being sure to stroke his ego as much as possible so as not to piss him off.

GreenFingersWouldBeHandy · 26/02/2019 11:43

What a shock.

Sorry, OP. But yes, I'd end it.

As others have said; be very careful.

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