Wants to see my body before we sleep together

[Floopyandtired]

I’ve been chatting to a new man for a few weeks. He’s 5 years younger than me and neither of us is looking for anything serious. Just a fwb situation if I’m honest. We’ve met up for coffee a couple of times and get on so well. Not kissed or anything yet. Last night we were messaging over WhatsApp and I mentioned how obviously my body, particularly my stomach, wasn’t what it used to be since having DC.

We then had the following convo:
Him: I think you’d have to let me see your stomach. Just to get it out my system.
Me: Pardon?
Him: I think I’d be distracted by it. Do you know what I mean? I’ve never seen anything like that before.
Me: No, I don’t know what you mean.
Him: I’d need to look at it and move on.

I told him politely that I am not my body is not a freak show, I’m just a woman who’s had a baby, and that I don’t think it’s going to work out but all the best. He was very apologetic and said he didn’t mean to offend, he’s just had no experience of being with a women who’s had a baby.

I’m torn over whether to put it down to immaturity on his part and move on as we really get on well, or stick to my guns and no longer continue the friendship.

[NashvilleQueen]

For those suggesting you ask to see a pic of his erect penis as some kind of punishment .... I guess that’s exactly what he was hoping to do.

You are well shot of him.

[FinallyHere]

Indeed a lucky escape ... and a reminder of the power of the MN hive mind. Genius.

If you have to start making allowance for a new partner acting in a way to make you feel uncomfortable, best put them back and block.

[BringMeTea]

We are going to hell in a handcart.

[Anothertempusername]

Fuck that shit. He sounds like a tosser. Bin!!!

[NabooThatsWho]

Just echoing what others have said about not apologising for your body or pointing out your flaws.

Work on accepting your body I’m sure any man would be lucky to have you.

To be fair, I’ve never heard of man recoiling in horror and running away when seeing a woman naked right before sex.

[Singlenotsingle]

We all need to have a look! Pay per view?

[RedFeltHeart]

To be fair, I’ve never heard of man recoiling in horror and running away when seeing a woman naked right before sex

No but a fair few will make pretty uncomplimentary comments afterwards

[Moralitym1n1]

Glad you blocked him. You do not need that from anybody but especially not from a fwb who's getting no strings sex (something there tends to be a considerable oversupply of men compared to women for), and is supposed to play their part in a fun, frolicky, uninhibited, enjoyable, easygoing experience.

Seems like he has yet to realise that when it comes to no strings, cock is the cheapest, most readily available resource on the planet.

[PaintingOwls]

I would advise not allowing him anywhere near your baked body.

[CaseofEllen]

No, sack him off! Anyone you might or do sleep with should not make you feel weird about your body, FWB or not. Unless he's 13 and his only experience of females bodies comes from porn he's clearly just a massive tosser xx

[CaseofEllen]

@Moralitym1n1 perfect, perfect reply 👏🏼

[Baddit]

Some on here might think I'm being harsh here but I don't think you should mention (even in passing) about your body being 'not what it used to be' when you're lining up a FWB. It's a total passion killer!

He is still a grade A tool for reacting like a 13 year old of course so at least you know now before you got physical.

[TextbookFannies]

He was just angling for a pic swap.

[Thehop]

You’d never enjoy sex with him, you e done the right thing.

[lboogy]

How do you not know to ditch him? Are pickings that slim? Jesus wept. I don't know you OP but I'm 100% sure you can do better.

I hope you find a wonderful man who treats you with the love and respect you deserve but this guy is not it

[sunshinelollipopsrainbows]

I'd struggle to be sexually attracted to someone that said that to me. What a weirdo haha.

[AnchorDownDeepBreath]

I think branding this immature is offensive to most young men, to be fair.

He's just a twat. Although I suspect he was hankering for nudes...

[RedFeltHeart]

I think branding this immature is offensive to most young men, to be fair.

I agree. My son is 20 and he wouldn't say this.

I know that because I've just asked him and he was utterly bemused that anyone would.

[category12]

What nashvilleheart said. I can't believe the amount of posts saying to get him to send a picture of his cock to shame him . A lot of blokes loooove sending cock shots, it's pretty ubiquitous.

[Butterpup]

I would have replied asking to see his six pack first.

[WinterfellWench]

Send him THIS pic OP.

[Walkaround]

Floopyandtired - what he said and asked was offensive, but to be fair, you started it. If it shouldn't matter, then why did you tell him your body is not what it used to be, particularly your stomach? If it was to test his reaction, then why would you now be considering continuing the relationship? It's a bit of a double standard to tell someone you find your own body difficult to accept as it is, but to expect others to say they have no issues with it whatsoever.

[LuluBellaBlue]

I once had a man say ‘I’ve never kissed someone who’s had a child before!’ And was surprised it was enjoyable
Well done for binning him! My 15 yr old son would never dream of uttering such a load of crap.

[MiceSqueakCatsMeow]

I'd be tempted to tell him if he's so worried about the stomach, that the vag was ripped to shreds having the dcs. Just for his reaction.
Bin him. What a immature little boy.

[NotANotMan]

Mate
You don't need this shit in your life. I've shagged lots of men since having a baby and I have a 3 stone overweight horrible flabby belly overhang and literally none of them have paid it the slightest attention, other than a couple who were actively positive about it!