Over 40 will I ever find love

[lifegoes]

Looking for any positive stories on finding love.

I've got a child from s long term relationship over 10 years ago.

I've had a few relationships since, but nothing really lasting. Cheating and liars being the main reason it's ended (them not me)

I'm just wondering if, anyone has ever met their one after 40 and how did they meet them?

Online dating at 52. I had to kiss a lot of frogs, but we're married now. Don't give up! x

@SpongeBobJudgeyPants oh really?

I keep thinking I should try online dating, but I'm never sure of it.

I heard tinder is the best??

I wonder the same. Currently dating someone nice I met on tinder. Not sure it will be love but it’s really very lovely.

Mid thirties and divorced. I'm also painfully shy around men. And I'm striking at best, certainly not traditionally pretty. And sadly men don't seem to like it too much when women out-earn them or they make you part of some superwoman power fetish thing, which is honestly ten times worse and creepy AF.

Even I manage to get dates. (Not found any keepers thus far, mind. But I'll keep on looking.)

@Notcoolmum how are you finding tinder in general?

I find things difficult as I like good conversation, I'm attracted to men who can stimulate my mind (and other things ha ha) but at first conversation.

@TakenForSlanted I've found this before with men. I've got a successful career and men either seem threatened by that or can't handle that I can be strong minded. They tend to try and control me instead.

Running and most particularly parkrun I tell ya!

Ours is only a small parkrun and I can name 6 40+ couples who've met there over the last couple of years and are still going strong.

I found the loveliest man in the world 6 years ago when I was 45. Don't give up hope op. There are nice men out there

@lifegoes, oh yes! The funny old "tame a wild animal" power trip thing. It's either that or the ones who can't quite tell the difference between a date and a dominatrix (not my thing at all - I may be a ball crusher at the office but I'm actually rather gentle otherwise).

That's literally why I've started dating mostly senior executives who outrank me by at least two pay grades and hence think I'm just "normal". I'm not even materialistic, I just can't deal with the objectification.

@Bestseller really?? I may need to go and find my trainers.

@BitOutOfPractice can I ask where you met your other half? I'm just worried my chance has gone

Wow!! @TakenForSlanted I get that!! What it is it with men like that?? They see a powerful confident woman in their job role and think we need controlled.

I'm like you, I'm like that all day. But when I get home, I am soft natured and just want to enjoy the company. Not feel controlled.

Where do you meet those types?

lifegoes I’m very similar. I found the dating thread on here absolutely invaluable.

I set myself rules and stuck to them whilst swiping: more than one pic; a bio with something I found interesting; no kids in profile pictures; no topless photos. I only had one bad date (my first). I dated a couple of nice men for a short while, had a trip abroad, got back in the saddle after years!!! And now I’m dating someone who I didn’t expect to like as much as I do, and for now I’ve come off the apps.

I was originally scared of tinder. I had the misconception it was an immediate hook up site. But that certainly wasn’t the case for the men I swiped.

I’d say it’s worth a try. Good luck!

TBH I think the secret is probably to find something you love and meet people whilst doing it. Running can be it, but but I'm sure it could be anything. None of these people were there specifically looking for love, they were there to get fit, have fun and get out of the house. Being happy doing something you love is really attractive

I met him online. On POF.

I'm afraid that now I've found the loveliest man you'll have to settle for second loveliest. But don't give up. I met some smashing men while I was looking.

@Notcoolmum that sounds positive. I need to find the thread and set myself some rules.

I'm not long out of 'something' and hurt still but after speaking to friends they keep suggesting that I need to start the process at least.

@Bestseller I do agree, everyone who I've met has approached randomly. As in I was just happy and content.

I was just considering going back to the gym, but maybe a running club may help.

Ha ha @BitOutOfPractice I'm happy to try and find someone similar.

I always thought POF was a hookup place? Is it not?

Where do I meet these guys? Industry events and airport lounges and bars at popular business travel hotels mostly.

I don't date within the firm as a matter of principle. If I did I could only recommend the regular get-aways, management off-site strategy workshops, summer DOS, winter breaks and whatnot. They're all literally bursting with recently divorced handsome male senior executives.

@TakenForSlanted if anyone is looking for me, they'll find me in my nearest airport lounge. Just lurking.

I've a few business events away in the next few months. Like you, I would never mix in my work.

Business model for my new start-up: divorcedbossswap.com - the website where you get to trade your divorced but handsome higher-ups against those of other women who also won't date within their own workplace.

I'll monetise it by asking for a hefty sign-up fee that'll also double as a gatekeeping mechanism: if the underling can't afford it, the swappable divorced boss is unlikely to be on the kind of salary that would mean he's not inherently threatened by professionally successful women.

^^ and THAT is probably exactly why I'm single.

... Just in case it wasn't sufficiently clear: that was obviously a joke and I'm not really a boss-pimping psychopath. I actually rather like my boss and his boss, both of whom are married and not available for swapping.

This gives a bit of hope

@TakenForSlanted I've never laughed so much for ages.

I think it's a perfect idea, get it up and running

I'm 44 and have recently started seeing someone. We're besotted with each other at the moment but whether it will last I don't know.