Over 40 will I ever find love

[lifegoes]

Looking for any positive stories on finding love.

I've got a child from s long term relationship over 10 years ago.

I've had a few relationships since, but nothing really lasting. Cheating and liars being the main reason it's ended (them not me)

I'm just wondering if, anyone has ever met their one after 40 and how did they meet them?

"Ours is only a small parkrun and I can name 6 40+ couples who've met there over the last couple of years and are still going strong."

Made me laugh as our local parkrun group thought it was soooooooo sweet that the leader and one of the women fell in love and moved in together.

What they didn't know was that they were both married :)

Yes, you can find love over 40 as I found an amazing man after my parkrun leader husband ran off with a married women in his running group and my new lovely man and I were 53 when we met.

@MyGastIsFlabbered I love that phase, it's such an amazing feeling.

Where did you meet?

@callkiki oh no!!! That's put me off

My last one was happily married but told me over and over he was separated. That all ended nastily so don't want that again.

@lifegoes we mutually swiped on Tinder 😳

I didn't find POF to be like that at all. Give it a try. It's s numbers game. Approach if with an open mind, a thick skin and a sense of humour and you can have some fun

@MyGastIsFlabbered

That's given me so much hope. Thank you, ive just installed the app.

@BitOutOfPractice I'm going to give it a go

Just be careful, Tinder can be soul destroying if you've not got a thick skin, as can any dating app. It's absolutely a numbers game but at the moment I'm feeling optimistic for the future

I really found a gem on a free dating site. I tried the Match type and so many scam artists on there.

When the man I was seeing noticed my favorite sneakers had seen better days he secretly took them out of my house when he was looking after me while I was recovering from dental surgery, and said he was going to get me some soup and stuff and instead went all over town until he found them and bought me the exact same pair in a size 5 as he thought the size 6 he took with him looked too big for my tiny feet (and he bought practically every soup flavor they make as he didn't know my favorite).

If you put yourself out there to find someone and there is hope at any age.

@MyGastIsFlabbered a few have said that, but it's got to be better than waiting for the love of my life to just randomly knock on my door 😉

@callkiki awwwwwwww that's amazing. I like things such as that. Shows they care

I'm 42 and met my dp who is 52 on POF a year and a half ago. We are both divorced. He was a slow burner but I adore the bones of that man now! There is hope don't give up if a relationship is what you really want.

@Boredboredboredboredbored I think I need to try POF

I def want a relationship. I'm not a hook up kind of woman, but at the same time I'm a bit raw from the previous. So I just want to make the effort to get out there.

@Bestseller I will second that parkrun!
At ours there have been lots of relationships form & even a recent wedding.

Almost 45, single almost 9 years, 7 years since I had a date. Given up.

I'm 45 been separated 9 years divorced him last year. I dated a lot between 36-40 then came off dating sites and haven't dated in 5 years. I'm enjoying my freedom tbh

After being divorced for nearly a decade, I dated and had casual flings but was a happily committed to single life and loved it.

I was 47, nearly 2 years ago and met a my man, who turned my life upside down. I never knew what true love was and I've never had such an amazing relationship. I'm the most wary, cynical person you could meet! I met him on tinder and we're so very happy and looking forward to sharing our future together.

@forumdonkey I love this! Hearing things like this give me hope

I guess I just need to make the effort

I'm 55. I was out on a date with someone else I'd met online (it wasn't working out anyway). Turned around, 'eyes across the room' moment with a guy, we've been together 6 years now.

I've 2 friends who had success on Tinder. I think it's good for older age group.

@MistressDeeCee ha ha I like how you met him on another date.

I've loaded a few apps up. I'm finding tinder easier to use

Life I met DH on a site called UK Free Dating or similar. I tri,ed POF and even Match (which was quite expensive and IMHO works in a disengenuous way IMHO). I had messages/contact from about 200 people in a 2 year period, but only met my DH. Online dating gives you chance to weed out people in a way that RL doesn't IMO. I'm amazed how many very stupid men manage to take a bedroom photo in a bedroom displaying womens jewellery, whilst claiming they are single and presumably not transvestite/trans.

@lifegoeson I met DH on Tinder. We've been married nearly two years, together just over four. He was 37, I was 43 at the time. Best advice for tinder....enjoy and remember most people our age are after a relationship, doesn't mean we have to put out there on day one that is all we'll consider. Things have to brew given time to grow and evolve organically and lots of women are in such a rush whilst also being so guarded they scare the bejesus out of most decent guys and end up attracting the very ones they complain about.

@Onemansoapopera thank you for this.

It's strange I set up a few sites last night and as I've not long come out of an awful situation. (I'm calling it situation not relationship)

I was fine and excited by your posts, but a few replies from guys today and left me thinking about my ex and how they aren't like him (not that anyone would want him to be) it's making me miss him. When I shouldn't be. Urggggghhhhhh

Take it slowly. I initially only went on Tinder because I'd been dumped from a great height by ex of five years. I just wanted the confidence boost of being told I was pretty etc. Dh and I got chatting and chatted in a friendly was for just over a month with no real plans to meet up and no real plans not to - but eventually I began to look forward to him texting me instead of missing the ex not doing. Only after that had been going on for a while and chatting was going well and we seemed to be bonding did we meet. We met as 'friends' but sparks flew and we left that first meeting the next morning as lovers I guess and never looked back. I gave the ones who didn't know how to be polite in their initial message one chance to act their age and if they still didn't I blocked them without any fuss or fanfare. I was still talking to one other man when I physically met DH and he was still talking to other women. We never discussed relationships/exclusivity/expectations....everyone else just kind of, fell away - like they used to in the old days before phones!! By six weeks it was just us two :-)

@Onemansoapopera I really needed to hear that so much right now.

I feel that's what I'm doing, just trying to feel that I'm actual worth it again. He left me feeling so worthless and foolish.

I just want to move on and feel that excitement again. I know it will take time and I'm def not ready to jump into a serious relationship. But it's nice to chat to men that make you feel good again.

I met DP when I was 45 and a divorced single mum, we're still together over 3 year later.

We met on POF and spent ages chatting before we met so I knew he wasn't looking for a hook up. In my experience tinder is more hook-up-y.

I also started parkrun 4 months ago + love the social side, I'm not surprised relationships start from it, it's great!

Good luck and don't give up!