Over 40 will I ever find love

[lifegoes]

Looking for any positive stories on finding love.

I've got a child from s long term relationship over 10 years ago.

I've had a few relationships since, but nothing really lasting. Cheating and liars being the main reason it's ended (them not me)

I'm just wondering if, anyone has ever met their one after 40 and how did they meet them?

Thanks @purplelass seems park run has the best turnout ha ha

Tinder does polarise people. In my experience it was not hook-up-y at all so it's a very individual I think.

In my early 40s and a single mum. I started OLD a year ago and have ups and downs. I’m a successful and intelligent person and find that some men are intimidated by this even though I think I’m very down to earth. I’m really enjoying the process of first dates (they don’t seem to go beyond this except for one (3 dates but exhibited signs of control and so I ditched him)). I now think of the whole thing as a process of getting me to the right person - learning lots about myself, what I’m looking for and my boundaries with each date.
Parkrun seems to be the way forward!

45, 3 kids at home and a busy life with volunteering and sports.

I started Old back in the spring, had a few 'going nowhere dates' a 2 month thing with a lovely guy who just didn't want a relationship in the end but we've stayed friends (via Pof), chatted to lots of people and a few nutters via POF and met someone else via Eharmony in early Dec.... Early days but thus far going well and we're both smitten and planning future things.

Eharmony apparently mainly matches by income bracket. I liked it as you just get a few daily matches and don't have to spend hours trawling.

I only mesaged people who messaged me first.

I only ever had one match on eHatmony in 3 months membership

Yes! I met my OH on Tinder 5 years ago on Tinder!
We are both 46 now. I had been separated for 5 years and my son was then 9. Like you, I had some short term relationships with some awful men and wondered if I would be single forever.
I sort of decided I was worth more and then my wonderful OH turned up. He was recently separated with teenage children (still living with DW who was conducting a long distance affair, so was VERY wary.)
It was worth the wait, it really was and I am sure that you will meet someone who makes you as happy as I am now.

You have spurred me on to joining tinder! I’m 45 and was feeling the same as you op, but these stories have made me feel a bit more hopeful.
Can anyone on tinder tell me how you know if someone has swiped left on you? I’ve seen people say that on here but I’m confused as to how you’d know?

You only know if you've swiped on them too, then it's a match. bear in mind, they may have already swiped on you before you swipe on them but you won't know unless you choose them. Hope that makes sense.

@lifegoes I don't want to put a dampener on using dating sites. Everyone has had different experiences and I would recommend joining the dating thread.
My experiences have not been great. It really affected my self esteem and I only ever seemed to come across creeps and time-wasters.
I definitely think you need to try it, and hopefully you will have more luck but please do it with your eyes wide open and a clear understanding of how it works.

If someone super likes you then you know but other than that you don't know unless you match, if that makes sense?

I'm still caught up in a complete whirlwind romance which has completely knocked me off my feet. He superliked me on Tinder and that's how we met so its reputation as a hookup site is a bit unjustified in my opinion as he's definitely not just after a hookup.

I am 55 and met a wonderful man almost three years ago after the end of a very long and unhappy marriage. Don't ever give up hope.