Am I being unreasonable?

[Strawbridge]

Is it me or has men changed for the worst?

The last two people that I invited for dinner both turned up completely empty-handed. Surely, if someone invites you for dinner and have gone through all the struggle to cook food from scratch , the least you can do is at least bring a bottle of wine.

Am I wrong to expect this?

I think I had a lucky escape!

It wouldn't even enter my head that guests are meant to bring something... I'd be providing wine as part of the meal anyway.

Some people have no shame regardless of gender.

So why did you start off right from the word go basically slagging off all men?

Interesting first time post, too

Sounds like they’ve dodged a bullet

@Shatner, I host lots of dinner parties - the ladies always bring some flowers to say thank you.

The men just turns up with their hands swinging. I have often offers to pay my shares on dates. I would never go out on a date expecting the man to pay for me.

The men just turns up with their hands swinging

TWO men. You're talking about TWO men. Not the entire species, unlike your opening

I have often offers to pay my shares on dates

Offered. How many times you have actually PAID your share, though?

If I invite someone for dinner all I expect is for them to turn up hungry.

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If I wanted flowers I’d go to a florist. Well, usually the supermarket actually 🤣. Same place I can buy wine & chocolate etc.

@Shatner, let's say that 90% - I don't mind going Dutch.

When I am invited to dinner, the least that I can do is not to turn up at my host's house empty handed. It's good to show appreciation! It's all about manners - do you have idea how hot the kitchen can get?

Those who turns up empty handed will not be invited again, let them go to KFC or McDonalds.

Maybe it’s a class thing but I’d never expect a bottle of wine unless I explicitly said to bring one.

It's good to show appreciation!

I think applause is going too far but presumably they did at least say "that was lovely/delicious" and "thank you for inviting me"?

It's all about manners - do you have idea how hot the kitchen can get?

Maybe they should bring a towel rather than bottle of wine? Or a fan?

I set the table well and I cooked well also.

Of course you should never go to a dinner party empty handed - whether you are male or female! A bottle of wine, flowers, chocolates or a scented candle. You dodged a bullet there OP.

You took a photo of your table setting???? Why the hell????

@Shatner, yes! I always take pictures of my table setting.

Seriously?? Why on earth would you do that? I could possibly understand it if you'd got an eight piece table setting with fancy china, cutlery, fancy tablecloth, huge centrepiece arrangement etc but, well, that just looks pretty "bog standard" to me, sorry.

Are you Fanny Craddock reborn?

Why are you inviting blokes to your house for five course meals? You write like you hardly know them?

I think turning up empty handed to dinner is a bit rude. Acceptable gifts in my opinion (for non-mates and a more formal dinner) are flowers or after dinner chocolates.

However, I'm wondering why you are going to the effort of cooking a three course meal for a potential boyfriend?

That sounds like a whole lot of investment for someone who's worth you are not yet sure of. I'd be just buying some popcorn to share at the cinema at this stage.

@Bluntness, I do know the individuals. I have known one for about 3 years.

And why are you buying them gifts? What kind of gift? And how are you meeting these men?

Oooh that sounds like a plan! We should all take a photo of our table 😁 We could have a competition.

I really don't understand, you're inviting men you know, to your home, to decide if they are potential boyfriends, cooking them five course meals, and buying them gifts, have you been on dates before this with tHem?

I think the table looks nice and don't think it's weird or mock-worth to take a photo. If you are proud of how it looks - then good for you.

I am still curious why you are going to so much effort though. Have these men invited you for dinner? Can you tell us a bit more about how these dinner dates came about?

mock-worthy

I been mailing a guy from end of November 2017 and I’ve known him for quite few years, we are still mailing but just never met , we are separated from marriages , he told me he’s doesn’t want to do all that relationship at the moment. We talk about work , what we’re having to eat , all different things, and even send couple cheeky pictures, she am attractive and sends xx and emoji in the mail but I send drunken text nothing bad , just that I missed him mailing me wen he’s was away business meeting, no herd from him today but at least he’s no blocked me , think he will get back but I reckon it’s a laugh but of conversation having a laugh , but we mail every day ?