constantly groaning, belching, sighing husband

[earlgreymarl]

My OH doesn't stop. Constant gasping, groaning, burping, constant gross. I don't think he has any idea. He didn't used to be like this, just crept up over time. The more he does it, the more he does it.

FFS!!!!!

It's like living with a gross old man, he's only in his 30's, god knows what he will be like when he is old!1

also i swear to god he sometimes travels around in a cloud of farts.

If one gets trapped in a room, you'll know about it and be sorry for hours later. You can't just open the door, cos tghe stench will migrate elsewhere, not dissipate.

Haven't you spoken to him about all this? Does he know how you feel? Maybe he's depressed, maybe his diet is unhealthy, maybe both?

He sounds very unhappy. Are there any underlying issues?

He sounds revoltingly unhealthy.

I wonder if he has H Pylori. Maybe he should go to the GP about it.

Oh dear I feel your pain re the burbs & farts! My DH is in his early 50s & it has got a lot worse over the past 5 years or so. He honestly wakes up & burps before anything else! It's actually quite funny but he's a total windbag. He looks after himself pretty well, tries to eat healthily, goes to the gym but if anything it makes him worse! He'll keep it in when we're out but that does mean I suffer when we get home as it has to come out somehow. Not too bad for groaning but the noises he makes sitting down/getting up are pretty funny. I doubt I've been much help, just wanted you to know you aren't alone .....& it'll probably get worse as he gets older, sorry!

Build him a sty in the back garden, and tell him that's where pigs live.

If he wants to live in the house, he acts like a human.

Simples.

Could be IBS?

Have you discussed it at all?

he has been depressed, but i think this is just part of who he has become. I can't tell him what I think about it, because he has been depressed! He doesn't take things very well in any case.

I have tried my best over the years with his diet, but he won't listen or cook for himself.

Catniss & shiny, that made me laugh. I think it is just my reality!

He just does all the groaning as par for the course, he doesn't just do it when he is down or upset, just daily going around!

i am sorry if anyone thinks its awful, but just to post it on here, let it out if you will, has made me laugh more than I have in ages, which I guess says a lot! Not laugh at him, just at how funny it looks when you right it down.

Ahhh, glad it's made you feel a bit better OP x Sorry if my last post was a little bit jokey, I'm just used to life with a bit more wind than usual! Seriously though, maybe a check up at the GP if he's willing?

Remind him he isn't very appealing behaving like that...

DH has noticeably reduced the grossness since DC1 said 'Daddy POO!' when he farted. He's been embarrassed into it

no no jokey is good! He is unlikely to go to the GP, he will just think I am having a go / take it to heart.

April that is a good idea!

reducing the grossness lol, yes. We could all be gross couldn't we if we didn't give a hoot! Don't know what the groaning and sighing is, just some kind of low tolerance to things. Mind you I do like a swear when not around young ears!

Is it normal for them to get to the stage without giving a sh*t though? I mean, we don't go anywhere / do anything as a couple, he never organises anything / makes any effort on the relationship / couple front, but it's all these little things that drive me most mad.

I mean get to the stage where they don't give a sht

Oh you have an Onslow 😀.
Don't feed him any kale etc. 😂
Is he on any medication? Could that be it. Couldn't you try to record his groaning and play it to him? Otherwise talk to gp could be depression.
But it gets worse later on, so if it is this bad already brace yourself 😁

Perhaps you should go out together, force him to be a little active, if depressed it is very hard to initiate anything yourself 😀. And people are different, but he seems very young for this behavior.

oh no lamdanish thank goodness he is trim though. I could try the record. He is weaning himself off sertraline, I keep telling him to go to Dr so he is weanign off under her instruction / care, but he won't listen.

To be honest the signing, grunting, gas issues have been going on since before he was on the medication / before he was depressed, but its just got worse and punctuated by the sighs / groans, and the dressing gown. I think he has just got used to being that way and indulges himself.

*sighing

he takes the dogs out and sometimes we do stuff as a family, but I am way past being the initiator of things relationship wise, I am rather put off and also much more busy now with work etc, I have much more on now than ever. It's a good idea but he is quite indifferent to suggestions.

I've opened a whole can of farts here!

My DH started to get too comfortable like this, and is sensitive to personal criticism... but I had to tell him before I fell out of love with him.

It resulted in a huge strop. But ultimately, it worked. He did sort himself out.

He still needs reminding every now and then, but glad I just his feelings to save our relationship.

*hurt (not just)

Fairy that's encouraging, good on you! Glad it sorted things out.