Dp has accused me of stealing his Cannabis from his shed!

[notasheep]

And giving it to a girlfriend.
Whilst my head is full of how will i pay £120 gas bill,£130 electric bill,£140 council tax,£100 for 2 new car tyres.

Think our priorities are wrong.
And i havent been in his bloody shed and didnt know he was hiding stuff up in it.

Concerned he is getting paranoid and putting Cannabis as top priority.
Anyone else have a dh/dp with such a habit getting in the way?

Attila-thankyou for your post You are spot on,perfectly right.
I have been weeping alot this week,to be honest it was over along time ago. May 2005 to be exact.
I know what i must do....... this whole scenario is making me feel ill

Tonight he says he hasnt any money for grass whilst i have spent today looking at school uniform for ds.
Well,I told him our priorities are rather different and told him to FUCK OFF

He has gone i dont know where,I have locked all doors so he cant back in and i feel marvellous and a weight off my shoulders already

thought you may like to know how much your advice has helped me being brave

looks like i am talking to myself

well done.

whilst yrou sitting there feeling positive about your decision pack his things.
im assuming he hasn't taken much with him. dont allow him to worm hsi way back in with teh excuse of getting is things and then sweet talking you round.

you have taken a brave strong step and you need to stand by it.

pack his things then go have a good nights sleep.

He hasnt taken a thing and as he is a huge hoarder he can pack his own bloody stuff.

I should have done this years ago and he even said in 2001 that cannabis would destroy our relationship.

Feeling very optimistic about the future now the dark cloud is out

I work in mental health. Sure a lot of men come in who are fucked from smoking cannabis, but they get themselves right again with a few weeks of anti-psychotic drugs and go home. What do they go home to though? A job? No. A stable relationship? No. All they go home to is their trusted friend/fiend cannabis. What a life.

Notasheep, I have friends who have been in relationships with men who smoke cannabis but they have stopped because of the children. If your dp could smoke one or two joints a night and still be a great dad/partner it wouldn't be as much of a problem. The big problem is that he can't. Do what you need to do but in your shoes I would be issuing an ultimatum.

Just re-read that and it doesn't look very compassionate. Sorry - I really hope you and the kids get through this and that you have the strength to deal with it. The strength is there - you just need to tap into it. He will be playing on your guilt strings no doubt.

ladylush-the big thing here is that he is nearly FORTY!
dd is 7 and ds 2 and Cannabis is still top priority

Well I'm not surprised. I'm mid thirties and I meet plenty of people my age who smoke a lot of cannabis. It sounds like he needs help to stop, but the problem with that is that he needs to want to stop in the first place.

notasheep...well done you. You know you are right. too tired to post anything else. But stay firm.

So sorry NAs.I well remember your posts of months ago on this opis.What a loser.
You and yuor kids deserve better.
Can life along be worse than the misery you are currently embroild in?
I doubt it?

Wasn't he supposed to be doing a degree?

NAS

Well done you for being strong - you need still though to stand firm re him because undoubtedly he will try and tug on those heart strings of yours.

Change the locks and live life with your children as it is meant to be led. None of you deserve to be a distant second to a man with a cannabis addiction. As you have discovered he puts his cannabis and need for same way above anything that you may need for either yourself and your children.

notasheep: /cheer

Well done.