Partner will not help with DD? At my wits end 😭

[Rosiesmama2016]

So my partner and I have been together a year and a half and we live together with my 3 year old dd. Whenever I ask him for help with dd he has a go at me saying I was the one who decided to have her so I'll have to get on with it. She adores him like he's her own dad but I feel like it's getting to the point where I'd be in exactly the same situation if I was on my own. I have to get her up, give her breakfast before I go to work, dress her and take her to my parents house why he stays in bed until 4pm because he works 3 nights a week and refuses to come to bed before 3 any other day. Tonight has just made me question the entire relationship. I have been ill since yesterday, I got up did the usual and went to work. When I got home I sorted tea out and asked my partner help with the bed time routine but he'd rather sit on his Xbox and have a go at me if I bring it up because "she's not my daughter" I am getting to the point where I feel like he's just lodging in my house. Am I being ridiculous asking for some help? He never has to have her during the day/over night. Can anyone please give me some advice? I have never been with anyone but him and my dd's father so I don't know if I'm asking too much or he's being unfair. Thank you!

There is no other advice than "leave" or "he leaves"

When did he move in exactly?
And why on earth did you let him move in when he has no interest whatsoever in being a stepdad?
Ask him to move out - give him a deadline - and end the relationship.
Your daughter deserves better. You do too.

This isn't right. He's not stepping up to the step father role. It's not like you are in the early days of dating. You live together. You should be a team. It's not on.

I really would not want my daughter around someone like this, especially if she adores him and he says things like that. Get rid of him!

Life is too short.

Leave him/get him to leave and move on.

You deserve soooo much better than this!

You are getting nothing from this relationship and it sounds like he gets free lodging in return. End it now.

Sorry I meant moved in together a year and a half. I have been with him for 2. He started off brilliantly with her but lately he just doesn't seem to care at all about anyone but himself. He's been blaming his depression which I understood as I have it also but it's getting ridiculous now. I'm going to have to give him a deadline

What?
You moved him into your house with your 3yo daughter after just six months of dating?
WTF?

So your boyfriend has no intention of being her stepdad at all ? It really is simple you accept this and crack on with it or you tell him it isn't working I don't think there is anything else you can do he isn't interested.

We had known eachother for a long time before dating. He works with kids himself and has done for years. I took every precaution (including a DBS check) before he moved in with me. I'm not the type of person to just move anyone in with myself and my daughter. He has just changed lately.

He appeared interested in her because he probably wanted to get his feet under the table

You've been had

Get him out

I don't think you should expect him to care for your daughter but if he doesn't he shouldn't live in the same house with her as she will know he doesnt care.
Does he do his fair share of household chores?

Is it your house? My guess is he moved in as an easy option. I think you need to raise your standards and perhaps be single for z while. Don't move anyone into your home for at least 2 years as that is typically when the honeymoon period ends.

Well he is telling you who he is... Listen.

He doesn’t want to be involved with her. He is not part of your family. Disgusting behaviour for that poor child who must know how he feels.

I don't care how long you'd known him as a friend, I can't believe you would move him in after just 6 months of dating.

It's such irresponsible parenting.

Get him the fuck out now. dreadful piece of crap that he is.

Imagine if you have a child together and he treats them completely differently.

He sounds horrible.

Get shot of him immediately- this is not fair on your poor daughter

Get rid op. Your child comes first.
And ffs do not get pregnant by this idiot.

And never leave her alone with him.

Yep agree with everyone else

Your DD is too young to actually remember him in a few years. But if he stays the impact of living with someone who cares nothing for her and behaves in this way will be huge

He does sound horrible she is 3 years old

He is not going to get any better, he’s taking the kids massivley. Get him out whilst your dd is young enough not to be effected by him.

Just another cocklodger. They find a woman with a place of her own and move in with no intention of being useful, paying their way, or growing up! Out comes the PlayStation....