Me again. With my never ending shit from exh.
Breif over view (more detail can be found in my other posts). I separated from h in Sept last year. Mostly because of his lying about money etc and because he's generally shit with money. He's also emotionally closed off. We have 3 young dc. We are going to counselling to see if we can save our relationship.
So last weekend we actually went out for a meal. Things went really well. We talked for ages and really worked through some stuff (which we haven't done without the counsellor in a long time). It felt wonderful.
H had a save to buy account which can only be held in one name. I also have one but there's a limit on how much can be paid in a month so when my gran left me some money we opened one in h name to pay it into (the first payment can be more). This was before all the lying about money shit came out.
I've been asking him since we split to give me my money back. He finally shut the account down last week and said he paid the money into my bank account. Well it hasn't shown up and he has no receipt for the cash transaction so its just disappeared into thin air (if h is to be believed). I am such an idiot for not going with him to sort it.
I feel so stupid for letting myself believe he could change. And I'm heartbroken that my nans money is gone. H is so emotionally crap it's not even bothering him that I'm in tears over the whole thing.
The stupid thing is I can't stop myself from wanting to make it work even though I know it's the worst idea ever.