My sister in law is once again using her narcissistic abilities to try and control things in her favour. My DH and I have a baby gender reveal house party planned. We planned it with over a months notice for family guests and have done our best to cater for them all to share the moment with us!
We knew that SIL (in her 30's)& NIL (age 15/16) (would be grumps about it all because SIL got pregnant under 18 by an already married man and has raised the child poorly and at my mother in laws house. We have our own house and everyone seems to be very happy for us (hence the party) 🥳Niece is a very nasty person and jealous of our unborn child already!! So I know it’s partly down to jealousy.
SIL has decided that she can’t come ‘because she is working’ but her work days only last till 2pm and Party is at 5pm onwards and NIL has decided now that she wants to come (despite the fact that Saturday nights is when she goes off drinking underage and does other things till the early hours of the morning) we’ve put it down to the NIL being jealous at my parents in law positive reactions to the baby, she likes to ruin other people's happiness that’s the type of person she is.
What’s really got my mama hackles up is the fact that the SIL is demanding that my mother in law give her a virtual tour of OUR home via FaceTime & that my mother in law FaceTime her at the EXACT moment of the gender reveal and I’m angry because of the comments that she is likely to make on the phone in front of my family and our friends and also will try and keep mother in law distracted on the phone to her to take the attention away from the baby!!
Please trust me when I say I know this woman’s motives, I lived in the room next door to hers for 2 years, she mentally and emotionally tortured me into a mental breakdown and her daughter is the physical and violent one. We moved out of the house a few months ago because of these people so please don’t try and tell me that they are doing something positive by being involved, they are passive aggressively trying to control my family!!
Does anyone know of a way that I can better the situation? I was thinking that she can have a FaceTime tour of the house BEFORE the party starts (as I don’t ever want her here anyway) but I want to convince my mother in law for her to be present with us at the reveal moment and not on FaceTime, my SIL has chosen not to be present or even had the decency to contact us so I'm not happy with making her feel like she's there or involved. I was thinking of possibly saying something like this to mother in law “just text her the gender results, we want to be able to hug you straight after”
Please be kind I’m a hormonal pregnant woman 🤰🏽