Don't push my boundaries?

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Fed up of this. THIS is one of many reasons I hate dating! Hate it! Done with it

Not sure what to reply

What?

I really don't see what he's done wrong!

How long have you been dating him?

Tell them how you feel! By the looks of your texts your reply should be

“I can’t be arsed with you. Goodbye.”

Literally just said the other day about meeting for a drink in a few weeks and he just pushes and pushes and doesn't take no for an answer

Which one are you?

You don’t like him. It’s clear. That’s not boundary pushing, that’s trying to sort out his diary.

Does he know your boundaries?? Have you been dating long enough to discuss them?? I think he's done nothing wrong and you seem like you're not ready to date, for whatever reason?? Speak to him if you want to pursue it, otherwise just tell him your not interested.

He's the one pushing for something on valentines

I can't think of anything worse. I hate meaningless celebration days, forced acts of romance, romantic gestures.. that's not me

So you haven't met him in person yet? Is that what you mean?

Yeah, the comment calling you selfish for trying to maintain your own boundary is a red flag.

We have a lot in common.. I was interested in taking things slow and getting to know each other then it's this.

It's either me or them cos I keep having this.

You don’t sound much fun. And what if HE likes that sort of thing? And what if for him, it isn’t forced, he likes you and wants to do something traditionally romantic?

The poor bastard!

I have met him yeah but a while ago

Cross posted. So you aren't even dating?? He's obviously keen, you aren't. Tell him that.

So you think I should do something I hate and that I'm not comfortable with otherwise I'm selfish? No thanks

He's not my boyfriend I literally just talked to him about meeting up for a drink! He then was pushing to do it next weekend I said no I want more time and then this

I'm just going to cut him off

You're not suited. He sounds like he enjoys events like that - you don't. Let him find someone who enjoys it, too, and you are then free to find someone who doesn't.

If it keeps happening then it’s you. Truly he’s done nothing wrong other than not be psychic. And you ARE being selfish because you’re only thinking about what you want!

Yeah I'm just going to stay single permanently

You’re not suited and it sounds like you’re not ready to date either.

Well I've had extremely bad experiences which led to long term ptsd from being pushed to do things I don't enjoy just to keep someone else happy

So sorry for being assertive

You know, your wanting to avoid this sort of thing, might be a protective merchanism because it stops you getting involved and if you’re not involved then you can’t get hurt or rejected.