Im desperately looking for some advice/support.
Im due to get married this May, in an overseas wedding. As its overseas, the majority of our guests have already booked and paid for their holiday, which makes this decision even more difficult.
My fiancé is lying to me about money. Its happened twice before, and the previous time, I told him, if it happens again, I'll have to end it...and it has.
Basically, I am responsible for all of the monthly bills etc, as he is terribly irresponsible with money. We finally worked things out so that everything would be in my name, and he would pay me his share which is half of everything each month. It was working relatively well, until August last year, when we went on holiday (actually, to visit the venue of our wedding). He was due to be paid from his job whilst we were there. He was spending a lot on both of us whilst there, and I kept reminding him about the bills payment that would soon be due. Suddenly, he came out with this story that he unfortunately hadn't been paid as a huge chunk of his wages had been taken by the tax office, so, surprise surprise, he did not have enough to give me his share toward the bills. I was absolutely furious, but he just kept insisting it was not his fault and there was nothing he could do about it. I needed up having to cover his share until the following month when he finally paid me back in dribs and drabs. I suspected that he was lying, but he insisted it was true. I barely spoke to him for that entire month as was so angry, and told him he should have had savings in place for situations like this, and that it was unfair to put me in that situation. Once he finally paid me back, he insisted that it would never happen again.
Fast forward to December. My fiancé told me that he was getting paid half of his wages before Christmas, and half after, on the 28th December (which is the day he usually pays me). He seemed to be spending much more freely than usual over the Christmas period. I asked him a couple of times for reassurance that he would pay his share on the 28th, and he almost got annoyed at me for asking. Sure enough, on the 28th, there was no wages. He told me it must be a mistake, but there was nobody there in the office to contact, so he would have to wait until new year to sort it out. On the 2nd January, I insisted he call to see what was going on, as he seemed reluctant (which started my alarm bells ringing). He suspiciously instead on going outside to call. After a few more ridiculous lies about the person responsible for the wages being away from their desk etc, he later told me that day that the same thing had happened again, the tax office had taken the exact amount he was due to be paid, and there was nothing he could do about it.
I'm not an idiot, I just knew immediately he was lying. There is no proof of it, no letter, and frankly I do not believe a word of it. To make matters worse, he was supposed to be paying half towards the wedding hair and makeup today (I paid the first half months ago) and I've had to start the new year broke as I've had to cover his share yet again. I have held off from paying his share of the hair/makeup as I do not even know if I should waste my money paying towards a wedding that may not now happen! I have not spoken to him since as I really do not know what to say or do.
As I write this, I know how ridiculous it sounds and if I was reading this, I would say get rid of him! But aside from this issue, everything else has been good. In principle, I feel like I cant be with him any more, but I feel so trapped. How would I even go about cancelling a wedding abroad when everyone has already booked? Should I end the relationship or give him yet another chance? Im so hurt he has done this to me, and I feel completely and utterly disrespected. I don't even want to tell any of my close friends or family as I feel they would be annoyed after paying so much to come to our wedding.
Has anyone else been i this situation, or have any idea what I should do? Im devastated he's put me in this position :(