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If you are a man

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Productrecall · 04/01/2019 00:45

Who would you be buying this for? Anyone with a birthday, or are the hearts restrictive? Would they even register with you as inappropriate in some cases?

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Sethis · 04/01/2019 00:49

A girl under the age of 13.

That's basically it.

MMmomDD · 04/01/2019 00:50

Are you trying to figure out who your bf/H got it for?

Unless he forgot his glasses - there are multiple hearts. At best the card is a joke for a good friend. But my guess is that it’s for someone he likes.

MMmomDD · 04/01/2019 00:51

If a man gets a girl under 13 a card with lots of hearts - and he isn’t her dad - he has issues.

Lilmisskittykat · 04/01/2019 00:51

It's just a pattern of hearts is how I saw it, until you've made me think about it...

Feminine looking card - is there a reason it's been torn in two?

flatulencebythebucket · 04/01/2019 00:52

A girl i fancied would get that card.

It would be inappropriate for a work colleague or family member due to the hearts.

As a guy I usually pick the first card i see that says the right thing...but i'd never pick a card like that for anyone except someone I fancied or was actually seeing. Seems very carefully chosen in my opinion.

(happily settled for 10 years but know the ropes)

Judashascomeintosomemoney · 04/01/2019 00:58

Totally depends on the man...... and whatever it is you’re suspecting him of. DH is so unobservant he once sent me a gorgeous picture card that, inside, said ‘To my darling husband’. This did not result in me thinking he might be gay, rather he’s just a bit slapdash.

Drogosnextwife · 04/01/2019 01:01

If i6s for anyone other than their child or the person the are in a relationship with I think it would be weird.

Who is it for/from OP?

potatoscone · 04/01/2019 01:01

Is it a supermarket card and the buyer was seriously restricted In choice? It's a pretty stale card whoever the receiver is tbh

chipsandgin · 04/01/2019 01:07

Anyone? A child he loves, a friend, his Mum - probably female or a gay man, but possibly not - a joke, a limited choice of cards... the possibilities are endless! Naff card but without context it’s impossible!?

ladamanera · 04/01/2019 01:07

Not as a man but as a time-strapped card-not-loving human I’d pick up the first supermarket card that didnt have an inappropriate “get laid now you're [x] age” on it and give it. This seems a relatively inoffensive, taste-free card. I’d give this to my secretary. Without anyone presuming I wanted to bone her. Its just a card! More important is what he writes inside. If he writea “until I touch you tomorrow - longing for you” then yes fair play. If “cheryl, happy birthday, Tom” think its a stretch to get incensed

booboo24 · 04/01/2019 07:44

I'd get this for friends (female) and I'm far from being a lesbian! if I got this from a male colleague or male friend I wouldn't bat an eyelid, it's just a general card in my eyes. The hearts wouldn't register in that way for me If it was someone I was attached to I might be a bit miffed it wasn't more personal!!!

Isth · 04/01/2019 07:47

It’s just a card imo. I’d buy it for any number of people, if I were in a hurry and there were no nicer options.

KirstyAllsoppsFatterTwin · 04/01/2019 07:48

A little sister or cousin, maybe a mother. Not a friend.

I am not a man but I imagine that's what most would say. Mind you, men are usually rubbish at this sort of thing and you could end up with whatever they managed to grab from the dire selection at a petrol station.

Unless you were a close relative or a partner I wouldn't expect to get a card at all from most blokes.

Changedname3456 · 04/01/2019 07:52

It’s a bit tacky. Not something I’d (I’m male) buy for a colleague or female friend really, unless I was short of time and there were limited options.

But then I won’t even sign off texts to female friends with an “x” as I feel uncomfortable doing it, so I’m probably not a good benchmark.

What did it say inside? I think the handwritten message is probably a better indicator of anything untoward.

DottyDotAgain · 04/01/2019 07:53

I'm not a man but that just seems like a generic card for a woman card. I'd give this card to any female friend, work colleague or relative. The hearts are 'friendly' more than 'sexy' I think?! Definitely wouldn't assume this card has been bought for someone the man fancies!

YellowStickRoad · 04/01/2019 07:58

Ime men are quite careful not to give cards with hearts to someone they don't like/love. I'd say it's for a girlfriend or someone they fancy.

NameChangeNugget · 04/01/2019 08:00

A child

Yogisunflower91 · 04/01/2019 08:01

I think there's too much thought going into this, I see it as a "generic card" however I think it depends on who bought the card, if there are any family birthdays coming up etc & the circumstances entirely.

I once found a card that my husband had bought, funnily enough a birthday card which he had opened & attempted to write in (but the pen had run out) there was nothing legible written in the card. Effectively it was blank.

I asked him where the card came from, he said he couldn't remember who he bought it for or where it came from, I believed him & forgot about it, that was the end of it.

I wouldn't worry too much unless you're feeling anxious about it.

Lonelycrab · 04/01/2019 08:01

Didn’t strike me as a card I’d get if trying to make an impression like that. I often pick up the first card I see that looks vaguely neutral and easy on the eye.

ButtMuncher · 04/01/2019 08:01

It's a generic card and the hearts wouldn't phase me. But my DH never buys cards, it's my job.

Am I guessing your DH bought this card for someone? Or he received it?

donquixotedelamancha · 04/01/2019 08:06

Wouldn't register as inappropriate. I probably wouldn't get it for someone I wasn't close to, but if it was the least terrible card in the shop I'd certainly buy it.

ShatnersWig · 04/01/2019 08:15

If someone tried to buy a birthday card in December that may well have been the best of a bad bunch, as round our way, 85% of normal card shop stock is removed for Christmas cards.

I'd say that's quite a generic card. It's not particularly romantic either in font or design. Yes, it's hearts but a lot of them are "arty" rather than red. I'd probably have bought that for my nan or my mum as a lot of those are seriously naff with crappy poems inside.

My best friend is female and I might possibly give that to her if choice was limited. I wouldn't give that card to someone I fancied.

DadDadDad · 04/01/2019 10:46

I'm a man, so for what it's worth...

Despite some comments above about the male stereotype, I'm quite picky and have an aversion to anything too cliched or tacky - eg I'd reject that card if it had a twee poem inside (or even a slightly gushing message such as "thinking of you always"). I could imagine giving that card to my wife if I couldn't something better (I'd prefer something more 'arty'), and possibly my mum, although I'd worry that hearts were a bit inappropriate (only associated with romantic love?).

JaneJeffer · 04/01/2019 10:55

Some people just see a card with Happy Birthday and think that will do. Other people search for the most suitable card for the recipient. So it depends on the sender's card choosing method.

GigglesForEd · 04/01/2019 10:58

I am a woman, but to me, this is a card for a girl.

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