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If you are a man

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Productrecall · 04/01/2019 00:45

Who would you be buying this for? Anyone with a birthday, or are the hearts restrictive? Would they even register with you as inappropriate in some cases?

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IWouldPreferNotTo · 04/01/2019 23:22

It's a card that says happy birthday. Would meet my criteria for a birthday card.

It's a card, no need to over think it. You get one as you're expected to.

SuperSuperSuper · 04/01/2019 23:25

It looks like a generic girly card to me. Not a card a man would buy for a woman he wanted to impress. I think you might be barking up the wrong tree, OP, and I'm usually quite cynical.

potatoscone · 04/01/2019 23:27

Limited choice, lazy man not wanting to go elsewhere to look, not overly romantic cars.

Slothslothsloth · 04/01/2019 23:36

Feel the card is a distraction. He shagged someone else; you obviously don’t trust him. Does it even matter who the card is for?

BirdieInTheHand · 04/01/2019 23:56

Surely the card is the least of your worries?

Sethis · 05/01/2019 00:07

Surely the card is the least of your worries?

Bells and/or whistles on.

It's just a card. Even if it was for the OW I would have thought you'd be rather more hacked off about him putting his dick in her than sending her a card with hearts on.

Either end or fix your relationship rather than micro-analysing or making assumptions about something that doesn't contain enough information for you to form an accurate conclusion.

TooTrueToBeGood · 05/01/2019 00:15

In my opinion, your reaction to the card is a symptom of the deeper problem. For reasons ive never quite figured out, so many people instinctively default to forgive, forget, repair when their partner cheats on them. Unfortunately, it's easier said than done. Your heart is telling your brain that you can't forgive and forget. There's nothing wrong with that, nothing for you to feel guilty about. Don't waste precious years of your life flogging a dead horse.

BitOutOfPractice · 05/01/2019 01:10

Goodness me op that's the biggest fucking backstory I ever read.

Quite clearly this card is literally the least, the very least of your worries.

I'd sat infidelity, mistrust, jealousy and deception rank higher than this card.

MrsTerryPratcett · 05/01/2019 01:15

If you're tearing up stationery because you can't trust him, it's not about the card. He's lied to you and he cheated and you aren't over this.

Deadringer · 05/01/2019 01:18

I am female (I think even though I choose cards very quickly based on the picture, I rarely read the twee verses inside) and it looks like a generic birthday card to me, in a limited stock I might buy it for one of my sisters. You don't trust him though, so the card is irrelevant really.

MrsTerryPratcett · 05/01/2019 01:23

DH says, "girlfriend, wife, small child".

But that's not the point. Your OH has proved he's a cheat. You don't need a card for that.

pissedonatrain · 05/01/2019 01:36

When did this cheating occur?

Is your DH a regular card giver?

YellowStickRoad · 05/01/2019 07:25

If he was shagging someone else for a couple of months then move on from this loser. You can do better, he's not worth it.

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