How often do you...erm have sex with DP?

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Sorry if this is the wrong place to ask.

I was just browsing some old thread years ago and people said they have sex with their husband/wife/partner 3-5 times a week?!?!?! That’s A LOT! So I just wanna check is nothing is wrong with me.

I’m only 30 (young enough I guess) and DH is 28. Been together almost 10 years. I think I have strong libido, his is average I guess. But we only have sex maybe 3 times per week during the 2 weeks leading up to my ovulation (we’re not TTC, just because I’m more in the mood) and nothing after that basically 2-3 dry weeks until the cycle starts again.

Is this normal? Is there something wrong with us/me? We used to have sex every day at the very beginning of our relationship (mostly initiated by me lol!). Is this boredom? Should I see a professional about this or it’s fine?

I’m sorry if this is too much info!

We'd rather do our hobbies

Im struggling to think what hobby could be more rewarding than having orgasms?

NotTheFordType - you need to talk to my wife. She has a long list.

I don't find it uncomfortable, I usually come through clitoral stimulation first then we do penetrative sex( feels weird calling it that lol) and sometimes I come from that but I'd say about half the time I don't.

It depends last month I think we had it 3 times, just not in the mood and sex is painful. When we do I lay there and let him have his way, however we do have good sex for a week after my period as I'm horny , whenever I really want it he's always working and by the night time the kids have worn me and im tired ..... We've been together 10 years and I'm younger than you.

I just can't be bothered 😆, I'd rather keep my hairy legs arms and lady garden ...

We are just starting to increase it again to once a month. We went a whole year after our daughter was born without it and I currently co-sleep with her, so husband is in a separate room.

Our daughter goes to bed fairly early now which leaves us time together in the evening. Hopefully we can increase it further!

“Dh always makes sure I do first” but how can you carry on once you’ve come??? It hurts me too much, way too sensitive

Same here. Without going into TMI, once I’m done it’s all about him, so rarely ends with PIV.

About 5 times a week apart from when I’m on my period. But we don’t have kids and we’ve only been together a year and a half. I think as long as you’re both happy with the frequency of the sex then it’s fine

Been together 9 years, we're both 26, have a 17mo and I'm 23 weeks pregnant and we mostly do it around 3 times a week. Sometimes 2, sometimes 4.
Each to their own, my DH has quite a high sex drive and does regularly text me from work about what he wants to do to me! Makes me feel sexy and wanted.
Longest we've went was 3 weeks without, but that was purely because of DS being born and I'd had a c section. It's about the intimacy to me.

Tbh, we used to co sleep with DS so we used to just shag on the floor while he stayed asleep in the middle of the bed.
He's in his own room now so lots more adventurous shagging has resumed 😂

“Im struggling to think what hobby could be more rewarding than having orgasms?”

Really? I mean, orgasms and sex are great but it doesn’t give you a sense of achievement or something.

Different people get off (fnar) on different things. For one person, an orgasm might be the best thing they can imagine. For others, climbing to the top of a mountain. For others, learning a new language.

Everyone’s different. For me, sex is cool etc but it doesn’t really mean anything. I feel closer to my husband when we go for a massive bike ride or cook together or something. For others, sex might make them feel close. It’s all fine.

Fulfilling hobbies and sex aren't mutually exclusive. It's possible to have/do both.

Little sex doesn't mean no orgasms, I can sort those out myself on my own time without all the other nonsense

Probably average about 4-5 times a week. I have 3 dcs including a nearly 9 mths old baby so don't think that's too bad! When I was pg it averaged about once a month and after I had the baby we didn't dtd for 3 mths. Even though I'd recovered, had to wait for the gp to fit a coil. Didn't want to take any chances as the baby was conceived whilst I was waiting for a coil appointment previously We've only been together for 2 years.