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DH sex drive was woefully low, but now it's through the roof. Wtf is going on?

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Huskylover1 · 27/12/2018 22:14

No idea what to make of this.

My sex drive has always been a lot higher than his. When we have sex, it is amazing, BUT we often go 3-7 weeks with no sex, which drives me mad. I have told him many times it could be a deal breaker, because he rejects my advances.

He went to GP for a Testosterone check, which came back normal.

He bought Viagra, which sits in the bedside drawer. He downloaded Porn to try to get in the mood and said he felt nothing on watching it (which really worried me).

Anyway, fast forward to last week, and (after 10 years of the above), he suddenly is massively sexed up. It's like he has been abducted by aliens and replaced. Following me around the house, snogging me constantly, groping my boobs, getting massive erections, cannot leave me alone and we've had sex every day this week.

I am massively confused! WTF is going on?

Has anyone experienced this?

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Northernparent68 · 27/12/2018 22:24

Maybe he listened to you when you said it could be a deal breaker, or perhaps his body, for whatever reason, is producing more testosterone.

AFistfulofDolores1 · 27/12/2018 22:29

I'm not saying this is true for you, OP, but this is often indicative of someone who is having an affair.

Batteriesallgone · 27/12/2018 22:32

Any big changes in his life? Job change?

Sometimes if a big stressor is lifted you find yourself wanting a lot of sex. Or indeed if something very upsetting has happened that can trigger a high sex drive too, a need for love and warmth.

WanderingTrolley1 · 27/12/2018 22:34

Affair.

Sostenueto · 27/12/2018 22:35

Viagra or affair.

Fevertree · 27/12/2018 22:35

I think he's having an affair. Sorry OP

HollowTalk · 27/12/2018 22:36

Sorry to say I've noticed this when an affair's going on, too.

SpiritedLondon · 27/12/2018 22:36

Oh I knew someone would say affair. Inevitable.

subspace · 27/12/2018 22:38

Could he have downloaded some sort of pills from online or something?

DontDribbleOnTheCarpet · 27/12/2018 22:38

What did he say when you asked him about it?

babysharkah · 27/12/2018 22:39

Affair?

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Huskylover1 · 27/12/2018 22:42

I thought affair too. Or a new colleague he could be thinking about. I am far from naive. I'm 49 have been around the block. But but but, nothing points to this. He is always home on time. No red flags whatsoever.

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BackInTheRoom · 27/12/2018 22:42

Yeah I thought Affair too sorry 🙁

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Huskylover1 · 27/12/2018 22:43

When I asked him what was going on, he said he had no idea, but was enjoying it.

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topcat2014 · 27/12/2018 22:43

Stress or health issues kill everything for me, along with putting on a few pounds

GeorgieTheGorgeousGoat · 27/12/2018 22:43

God you’re a cheerful lot!

BackInTheRoom · 27/12/2018 22:44

Sex before work, lunchtimes, leaves work earlier? ....gosh I'm so sorry even suggesting this but yes, they are dooable 🙁

HappyintheHills · 27/12/2018 22:45

Maybe he tried the viagra?
Could you ask him?

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Huskylover1 · 27/12/2018 22:45

He has also said that he feels massively guilty for neglecting me, how much he loves me, how sexy I am.....this is from a man who has left me untouched for sometimes 7 weeks.

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EmbarrassingThing · 27/12/2018 22:46

You wanted more sex and now you're getting it?
What a fucking liberty! Leave the bastard!!!

70sbaubles · 27/12/2018 22:46

Testosterome supplements?
Or affair

Original poster

Huskylover1 · 27/12/2018 22:46

The viagra has been used 2 times. The rest are in the packet.

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MulticolourMophead · 27/12/2018 22:47

Must admit my first thought was affair. And we see so many threads on here wondering where people have found the time so I wouldn't rule it out.

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Huskylover1 · 27/12/2018 22:48

You wanted more sex and now you're getting it?
What a fucking liberty! Leave the bastard!!!

I've been wanting more sex for 10 years. Am I not supposed to question this enormous change??

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BackInTheRoom · 27/12/2018 22:49

Has he taken any work trips away? Been to visit any mates? Started making more of an effort with his appearance? Buying new clothes? Going to the Gym? Again, I feel awks for mentioning it!

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