Found viagra in DPs jacket after night out

[cheatinghubbie]

With dp 17 years, three kids.

Basically he went out on staff night out the other night. I came down the following morning and was looking for money for kids book fair in school and looked in his blazer jacket and there was a four pack of viagra with only two in it.

I know from experience dp can't 'perform' when drunk. But we have never used it before.

The blazer was left in kitchen all weekend and moved today and I checked and viagra is gone.

My 'plan' was to let him put it somewhere else, leave it a few days and say I found it in underwear drawer or wherever he hid it but now I can't find it.

Think I'm just going to have to ask him out straight tonight.

He works with only men, but they meet up with a group of women they work closely with.

So pleased it all worked out well.

sorry OP, but I think he was merely hiding them in plain sight by putting them in the bag. What better place could there be in the house to avoid suspicion?

I hope I'm wrong.

And I've never been cheated on, so it's not my own bitterness from experience being projected here!

Why do you think his story is so unbelievable?

For goodness sake, the OP knows her partner and is happy with everything.
It seems perfectly plausible to me.

Seems like posters are looking for drama where there is none.

Fuck sake is this still going on!

Laughable now.

Oh OP.. have you eh.. tested out that sex bag addition yet?

Hope this is all as you think it is OP. Good luck.

@Youmatter no not yet, it's being saved for a night away in the new year, away from the kids.

@Sausagerollers that's a good point you made and one I thought of when I first found them. We have been meaning to get it sorted. Just renovated house so need to save the cash up again for a wedding !

To answer your question OP, his excuse just reeks of lies to me. Putting myself in his shoes, if I was trying to hide them from you, and especially if I thought you had already found them, then the sex bag is exactly where I would put them, not in a drawer or anywhere you might not find them (deliberately not to make them disappear).

The blokey 'my mate gave them to me to try' sounds very weak. They are expensive to buy privately and prescriptions are expensive and like hens teeth. So to give 2 away (or 4) seems very generous. Also, many people take 2 at a time, rather than just 1 pill, to get a decent effect.

Since he doesn't have ED, had you already discussed ways to enhance your sex life, or his performance in this way? It's a bit random to just introduced them without having talked about it beforehand.

I'm really not trying to ruin your relationship. It just seems implausible to me, and I am a very trusting type.

You are also so quick to believe him. I would watch for other signs of infidelity over time. Hopefully there are none, and I'm completely wrong.

best wishes to you

Don’t get this deleted, move it to classics, it’s helpful as a roll call of all those drama addicts that spend their days on relationships trying to turn the most innocent slip up into a divorce.

Yes we had discussed it in passing a few times over the years. Not recently now but it has come up.

Dp has a very high sex drive. We have always tried to keep things fresh as we have been sleeping together for 17 yrs and have three busy kids and both work busy shift jobs.

I'm happy that he is telling truth. If I'm proved wrong than we will deal with that again. I'm definitely not over trusting and not naive.

As someone who used to be involved with the distribution of Viagara when it was first launched I would like to point out that until recently it was a prescription only drug and should only be obtained from a reputable source (such as Boots) rather than your mate.
It was developed as a Cardiac drug and only began to be sold as an erection aid when certain side effects were discovered. Given this if anyone has an undiagnosed hearth condition it could be very very dangerous
Ok, public service announcement over - as you were

Lot of projecting going on in this thread.
I’ve (bloke) asked my mates if they’ve tried it - more along longevity lines than about dysfunctional worries.

I’ve also had a few tabs of a dodgy looking knock off product from a mate at work. Wouldn’t recommend those - main effect seemed to be to make my face turn an interesting shade of puce for an hour or so! 🤨

Hoppinggreen I’m not sure a hearth problem is that relevant to the OP nowhere has she mentioned cracked flagstones, a buckled grate or smoke blowback from a blocked chimney.

Seriously, you’re point is a good one. There are risks for some men in taking Viagra without a proper hearth assessment.

I have a few males friends who used to mess around with viagra recreational! No women involved

I believe him! I’ve had ex bf’s who’ve scored Viagra from mates on a lads night out!

His story sounds perfectly plausible, it's laughable folk are challenging it but even more laughable is someone saying Viagra works on women, no it certainly does not.

lady we really do need to protect our hearths!!!

Well the way Viagra works is to increase blood flow so in theory it could affect women.
However, it does not increase libido in either sex. It just enables and can give firmer erections ( I went on a course and everything)

I can kinda see both sides of the story here. I can see why OP would be inclined to believe his explanation but I also understand the viewpoint of a lot of the opposers too.

Only sure way to find out would be to ask him which friend he got it from and quickly contact that friend (assuming you know him/have his contact details) and cleverly try to get confirmation of this (not straight out asking did you give my DH 2 blue pills? but hinting at it, see if he looks confused, confirm the quantity etc.) - obviously this only works if you really want confirmation if it's true and if you have his friend's pone number

@Borelis no he is his friend from work. I don't know him, just know of his name

To answer from a guys perspective, yes we do talk like that, however the use of viagra isn’t necessarily due to not being able to get it up (which can be an issue with nerves and other concerns for some men), but the viagra is to ‘super size things’ a bit more. All pretty normal, and I was given some from work mates a few years back myself.

Glad there was an innocent explanation! Shame on the vultures desperate for a seedy outcome for their own entertainment.

If there is one person in this world who can judge whether his explanation is believable, then it is cheatinghubbie. There is a sizeable group of women on this forum who are prepared to automatically assume that any man is a lying cheat. Yes, some men are unable to keep it in their pants and will shag anything that stands still long enough, but we are not all the same.

I am a hard-nosed cynic with plenty of experience of liars, but this has a ring of truth about it. The best thing to do is wish cheatinghubbie a good Christmas and hope that the Viagra is a great success when she and her partner get around to using it.

Viagra connect is available over the counter. I’ve just googled and it’s £18.99 for 4 from boots. So no need to be 😱taking someone else’s prescription meds, or having to convince gp to prescribe.