Found viagra in DPs jacket after night out

[cheatinghubbie]

With dp 17 years, three kids.

Basically he went out on staff night out the other night. I came down the following morning and was looking for money for kids book fair in school and looked in his blazer jacket and there was a four pack of viagra with only two in it.

I know from experience dp can't 'perform' when drunk. But we have never used it before.

The blazer was left in kitchen all weekend and moved today and I checked and viagra is gone.

My 'plan' was to let him put it somewhere else, leave it a few days and say I found it in underwear drawer or wherever he hid it but now I can't find it.

Think I'm just going to have to ask him out straight tonight.

He works with only men, but they meet up with a group of women they work closely with.

God, loads of guys take viagra for fun, often just as an experiment. I used to have a ton of the stuff (through legitimate means I must add) and every man I know wanted to give it a go! Apparently it can reduce the time you have to wait after ejaculation before you can "go again". I also have a pharmacist friend who say he has to prompt men who come in to buy it, "So you HAVE had erectile problems, HAVEN'T YOU" (nudge nudge, wink wink). He's taken it too, recreationally, as an aside.

@VietnameseCrispyFish @caroldanvers
What is so hard to believe about what the OPs Dp did?
He got some viagra off a friend to try and brought it home and put it in their mutual bag for their bedroom activities. He doesn’t know she say it in his jacket before he moved into their bedroom.
Why would a man who was up to no good bring viagra home and put it somewhere for him and his partner?!
The worry obviously would have been if he had hidden it and never mentioned it. But he put it in their bag!
Not sure what is hard to comprehend about it.

Oh and my DP has been offered viagra by a few of his friends. It’s not just for those that can’t sustain erections. People believe it can help intensify things etc. There isn’t the stigma around it anymore.

Exactly what I said @RatRolyPoly !

You can buy viagra over the counter btw

Glad it was all ok OP

OP

I’m sorry it’s turned into this. Posters read your relief and tried to plant doubt. I hope you haven’t listened.

Give op a break and stop trying to piss on her parade.

How would you know OP that he's never used it? Don't assume the worst but be vigilant and monitor.

Unfornatrly on here you get some very bitter people who believe all men are guilty. They want you to split up. Sometimes they even get abusive when you announce you are staying with your partner.

Anyway, do you have a beaker in your sex bag?

Yes, you cannot delete a thread.

Particularly a thread about Viagra. It will stay up forever, its not going to go down in a hurry, however hard you might find it. Chortle..

LadyPasserine Chortle? WTF

@LadyPasserine wtf?!

I don't know he has used it, but I trust my gut instinct and it's telling me that he is telling the truth!

It's not totally unbelievable that men talk about sex!

@LadyPasserine 😂
OP you're husband is so obviously innocent. Don't get why some people on here are trying to convince you otherwise.
A sex bag though? I've got several layers of dust and a bag of jelly babies which is annoyingly , just out of reach!

I think @LadyPasserine was joking ... worth re-reading if you didn't realise.... Glad this has had a happy result.

I would just stop responding OP and it will die down.

@erich - when it wears off...

We have a sex bag too!

Not every bloke is a cheat 🙄 glad there was an innocent explanation op, some just thrive on drama and are gutted when there is none 🙄

Some people seem disappointed thats it's sorted and everything's ok

Sounds plausible to me. Glad you are ok, op.

I'm going to delete the thread now. I was going to keep it up but there's no point

Am I the only one childish enough to snigger at that in the context of this thread?

Glad it turned out ok

Any explanation from your DH about the two missing from the pack OP?

@BitOutOfPractice  nice little pun there :)

@SilverySurfer because he got them from friend who has already used two!
The whole story is, all the group met at friends house for a drink before going to pub. Dp and the owner of house (who is also in long term relationship) had previously discussed using Viagra. Dp had said before that he had never tried it. Friend said he got something from a friend in Thailand that is supposedly very effective. Dp said he wouldn't try that but the friend slipped him to normal viagras which he had got from gp.

I completely believe dp. I'm not worried in the slightest, I had no reason to believe he was cheating other than this.

I don't want to out I'd but he is a fireman/paramedic who works mainly with men and the conversation often leads to sex talk in the truck! He is very open person (as am I) so I completely believe this. I will report this now when I figure out how. Just to delete it.

@LadyPasserine I'm sorry I missed the joke! Was working yesterday so only checking my phone quickly through day!

You are up early OP or is your hubbie now the early riser.....

No worries, glad of your conclusion.

Men absolutely do talk about using viagra, and share their stash. One of DP's friends is quite open about the fact he can't perform without it and gave DP some to try. I found it in the kitchen cupboard and was like and threw it away. DP doesn't have problems in that department and I didn't want him to like it and become dependent like his friend. DP was most disappointed.

Even before reading your explanation of why your DH had it my first thought was that he wanted to try it rather than he was up to no good.

My heart always sinks when I see these sort of threads and read "DP" rather than "DH" because 9 times out of 10 it ends up with a cheating ex and a woman left with no claim on house, income or pension.
I'm glad this worked out positively in the end, but just wanted to flag up that maybe now is a good time to set up legal rights in terms of separation/death if you haven't already.
You've been together for 17 years, surely both of you would want the other person looked after if you did go your separate ways/one of you passed away.