If you're in love with your partner, what does it feel like?

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I'm married with 2 children. DH and I are having marriage guidance counselling at the moment and I'm not sure whether I want to continue in the relationship. I'm not sure if I love DH. If you're in love, please can you tell me how you know? Or how you feel? I'm interested to see if I have any of the same feelings or experiences as you. Thanks so much.

25 years married. He is the best man I know. He is the kinder, the more patient, the levelled, non neurotic side of me. He makes me feel safe but desirable.

Getting excited when he comes through the door, even after 18 years. And he's pretty much the only person I'd choose over my own company

He frustrates and annoys me at times but he is my best friend.

I’m super comfortable with him and even when I’m away from him for just a night I miss him. I smile each time I see him.

He makes me laugh and he understands my nuttiness. I’m just happy with him.

We’ve been together 14.5 years and married since March.

I'm scared of us getting old and him dying (he's older than me) and I can't imagine being able to live without him

even when I frustrate the hell out of him, I still see compassion in his eye

This got me.

Don’t get this from my dh.

This is a nice thread though.

Married 22 years, 2 teens, still love him, actually more than ever.
He's the person I most want to spend time with above anyone, far more than girlfriends. He is the kindest, most patient person. He makes me laugh and I fancy him something rotten.

This thread is lovely. It's made me remember how lucky I am to have DH. Like most couples we have our ups and downs but he never gives me reason to doubt him. Our passion may have waned but we love each other deeply. We laugh a lot. We are (mostly) content and happy. Could do with more sex, but that's my fault not his

I'm loving this thread. All of these people who've been in 20 + years relationships and are still in love 😍. To me love is that one person who makes it all make sense. A few nights ago I was curled up in bed with my boyfriend, at that moment there was nowhere in the world I would rather be. I was so happy.

I feel really loved by him, and appreciated. He is on my side.
He really loves being with me and I do him. Just having time together is always great - there's noone I would rather spend time with. He makes me laugh, we enjoy the same things and discuss lots of things - I like his brain as well as his body. We know each other very well- good and bad, we can be ourselves.
We are very happy physically - affectionate, loving, great sex, lots of kissing and cuddles. He's a great hugger and kisser.
I love our life - he's a fantastic dad and we want the same things and have created a life together and a home and family that we both value and enjoy. It's what is mosti portant to us. Being with DH, wherever we are, feels like being home. He makes me feel safe, like I matter and me being happy is important to him. There is nothing he wouldn't do to support and help me- I never feel let down in any serious way.
When we disagree we don't huff, we just have our say and sort it out. I grew up in a huffy, shouty house and rows scared me before I met DH. They don't now.
He does drive me mad at times but I have never met anyone who didn't.

Love this thread. I think everyone else writes better than me but I’ll give it a go.

He is family, home, stability and makes me feel safe. I never had that growing up. He brings out the best in me. I am more confident, funny, happy around him.

I can be myself around him, with everyone else I have a filter but with him I don’t even need to think before I speak. I can be as weird as I like.

He’s seen it all and it hasn’t scared him off- me giving birth and the post baby mess. He loves my jiggly tummy and stretch marks. We have the same values. Although he makes me more sensible and I make him more spontaneous.

I've already posted but I agree with what perfect said. DH evens me out. He's more contemplative, calm, easy going to my impatient self. I find myself thinking, "What would DH do?" and it's usually the right thing. I'm very impulsive and he reigns me in a bit, but I think I help him take more risks too. We compliment each other.

Herja I am very sorry.

So many posters saying that the partner they're in love with makes them
Feel Safe.

Agree it's a lovely thread.

The feeling of total contentment. We spend a lot of time together and it is never boring. I've known him since I was 15 and I feel like I did when we were teens. Everything is right in the world when I'm with him and the kids, I wouldn't want to be anywhere else. He's home and that's right where my heart is.

I think about him most the day, when we're not together I count down the seconds till we are.
I love touching him, anywhere, and it feels amazing when he touches me. We're comfortable in each other's company but never bored of each other's companionship.
I smile when I think of him and can't imagine my life without him.
I always make sure he knows how loved he is and go out my way to make his life happier, and he does the same in return.
I feel like I gravitate towards him.
There's little things he does that make me love him more every day, when I laugh at something, he laughs with me, not because it's funny but because he just gets caught up in me.
We have the most successful relationship out of anyone we know.
I think he is gorgeous and never need to look or think about any other man because to me nothing compares to him because he's mine and that alone is all i need.
He's the only person I feel safe with.

After nearly 13 years together, it's still like he's the only man in earth. Nobody else could compare to what he means to me. We have been through some amazing times together and some truly heart breaking ones, but I've always been able to rely upon his support. Sharing a bed with him means so much, we are the very best of friends as well as lovers and I'm fiercely protective of his hopes and dreams.

I had twins born prematurely in traumatic circumstances. Dh slept next to my bed on the floor with only an nhs pillow for 3 nights, helped me with every single aspect of my personal care for a week until I was well enough to do it, without comment and has supported me through severe depression and anxiety for the last 2 years. I feel like after all that, I've seen into his soul and seen the wonderful person he is. Boundless patience with our naughty toddlers, it's beautiful to watch him with our children. I am so so lucky to have him. I know we would do anything for each other. He makes me feel safe. I can tell him anything. He's made me a better person.