Ex Popping Up 8 Months Later To See DD ....

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Hi all. Wondering if I could have some advice in dealing with the confusing and unexpected situation.
My ex-Dp done a pretty impressive disappearing act when I was 12 weeks pregnant. I had no idea where he went, I still don't, and that was that, I done the whole thing alone.
When baby was 2 months old, I began a CMS claim, they found ex-Dp and after a lot of months of complicated chasing etc, we now have a plan in place (albeit, he pays less than the minimum on a technicality, but what can you do?)
Fast forward to now, he eventually got in contact, demanding he be put in the birth certificate, he has rights, I can't stop him from being on there (he has never met our child, can I point out. Has seen one picture, never pushed to visit) and after some questioning, he said he needs a copy of the birth certificate to prove to a company that he pays CMS for a child, and it will reduce a monthly outgoing he has.
Ive told him no, I'm not putting him on there, he is doing it for a selfish reason, and not for DCs benefit. He has said he will go for other options if I don't do it. Can I keep him off the birth certificate?

aussiebean, new start now, points taken and they do have validity.

I'm in no way defending the actions of the father here, and I fully understand where the op is coming from in her concerns and justified anger but I was just trying to see past that a bit and focus on the little boy.

he won't be able to be adopted without the consent of his birth father, regardless of whether or not he is on the birth certificate.

he won't be able to be adopted without the consent of his birth father, regardless of whether or not he is on the birth certificate

Not correct . I’m assuming you mean a step parent adoption. The court can decide to dispense with the consent of the birth father, if they consider it to be in the best interest of the child.

Whilst I have every sympathy with you and agree that your ex sounds awful, I don't understand why you are claiming CMS from him. You say he pays below the minimum, which presumably is peanuts and by doing so are inviting all sorts of aggro from him.

Why do you not just get on with your life without him, with no claim and no hassle? If he ever does grow up in the future and decide to become a decent human being, then you can cross that bridge when you come to it.

Technically he doesn't need to be consulted, but it's highly likely that efforts would be made to find him (piss easy, he's paying for his child via CMS) and since the OP hasn't said she is going to never allow him contact, he's likely to have had some level of contact with his child.

In those circs, highly unlikely to have adoption order granted without his consent, I'd have thought.

@Chamomileteaplease the fundamental concept of the benefits system and law in England is based on the principle that both parents are financially responsible for the upkeep of their child (regardless pretty much of how the child was conceived).
Not everyone can afford not to get Child support, and in fact almost everyone should claim it - even if they just save it for the child to use later in life.