My boyfriend died.

[Herja]

I found out yesterday that my boyfriend has died. We had a long distance relationship and I had not been able to get hold of him, his mum went to check on him and found him.

He was quite troubled, but was the only person who understood me completely in the whole world. Despite his problems he was a most amazing person, I loved tge way his mind worked. He was so funny and so kind and I miss him so very much already.

I last spoke to him on Monday morning. On Monday night I called and he tried to answer I think. He was found on Thursday. I have anxiety around people I love dying, so I was worried something was wrong from Monday night. We normally spoke by message a few times an hour.

I miss him. I miss him. I miss him.

I am so sorry for your great loss. My wonderful husband died suddenly six years ago. He had a heart attack in his sleep and was dead before the doctor and the emergency services arrived. At least I was beside him when he died but, like you, I never had a chance to say goodbye. The future that we planned will never happen and my life is now so empty and so different from what it should have been. The awful thing is that people who have not experienced such a great loss have no idea what it is like.

I know I couldn't have fixed him, but I didn't care. He put up with the many shitty parts of me and he loved and supported me. I was more than happy to do the same for him. He was an alcoholic, but he was a beautiful person.

I'm so sorry.

Aww that's very sad..how long were you together? Do you have children?
Talking to people on here may help a little, on here there is always someone on here that will listen

I am sorry for your loss. Clearly your boyfriend was able to help you deal with your demons but had not managed to come to terms with his own issues with alcohol.it is very sad . All you can do is remember the gpod times you had with him. I am pleased you have real life support to help you.

I am sorry for your loss. It sounds like he had his struggles, but he sounds like a warm and wonderful person.

I'm so sorry for your loss.

My alcoholic partner died suddenly in July. It was a terrible shock.

I'm a member of widowed and young (we weren't married and didn't love together). I find talking with other people in my situation hugely helpful.

Hugs x

Only 2 years. But he had been my best friend for over a decade before. I miss him so very much.

I'm so very sorry this has happened. There is really nothing to say to make it better. I'm just sorry x

I don't have words but am reading everything you write, so much love there xxx

I'm so sorry, OP. Are you managing to take care of yourself ok? Keep warm, try to eat something, rest well and keep your expectations of yourself very low. You need to look after yourself as well as your BF would have looked after you.

Sounds like true love. So very sad for you

So sorry for your loss Please keep writing here, we're reading. It's good for you to talk about him. RIP.

Oh darling I am so very sorry for your loss. What a horrible shock. Keep posting if it helps. He sounded a very special man. Be very gentle with yourself.

flowers for you.

Oops

He was special. I have never met another person remotely like him. He was building me a den in the woods. I like dens. This was going to be a survival shelter type one though, so we could sleep in it. He'd planned it. It was having a whole camp with a gate and log chairs. He loved being outdoors. He lived in the highlands and he could tell where he was in the woods with his eyes shut by the sound of the trees. He was amazing and I verging on worshiped him as much as loved him. He made me feel happy the way children are when I was with him. Because of the distance, any arguing was by phone, so every single memory I have of him in person we were happy.

And now all I can think of is the dog. His neighbour has incurable cancer. He was meant to take the neighbours dog when he died. He walked it every day and it stayed with him quite often. All dogs loved him. Now what will happen to the dog? She loved him too.

I am so so very sorry! I have known similar sorrow.My lovely partner died. I felt like a light had gone out. he was a troubled, troublesome dear person who understood me... I cared for him throughout his illnesses but not at the end.

Bless you and I send you all my most compassionate and kindest thoughts...do not be afraid to seek bereavement counselling.

You sound like you had something really special together. I’m so sorry OP. I hope we and people in your life can help and comfort you while you go through this pain.

How would you feel about taking on the dog. Is it doable?

I'm so very sorry for your loss xx

Sadly not at all doable. She was a nightmare for everyone but him and her owner. I've just taken my children to a carol concert and ended up sobbing quietly the whole way through. My heart doesn't feel broken, it just feels gone.

So very sorry for you, I lost my partner in June under similar circumstances. x