If you were at the Wycombe Swan tonight

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Please leave him. Find a safehouse. Please Tonight. Now.

Go where you’re safe.

Please can some regular MNers post links to help that can be provided?

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The police can be called and take to refuge.
Also the national domestic violence helpline 0800 2000 247 - different to the one ^
If you are reading, its not your fault, it never is, you don't deserve it, you never could, you do deserve better, always.

Please seek help

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its so hard.if the police are called and shes not ready.she will always go home to him and him come home to her.and this will then be so much worse for her when that happens.he wont like it at all.and her punishment much worse.

Only she should call the police, no-one else unless it's necessary when witnessing abuse

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@looondonn thanks for posting, i remember your posts. I'm glad you got away and hope you're OK xxx

Domestic abuse is terrible and terrifying to witness as you feel so helpless. I wonder if the lady and that 'man' are regulars at the Wycombe Swan, and if she has any friends that go there who could somehow discreetly 'reach out' (for want of a better phrase) to her and encourage her to seek help?

Although reading my last post, it might be hard to find out who those friends are.
Thinking of everyone who is stuck in awful situations and can't see any escape. There is, it can be just bloody impossible to see it xxxx

I think the Wycombe Swan is a theater @Ravenclawclassof84.

01494 461367 - Wycombe women's aid.they can help you move to a different area if full /if necessary for your safety.

Yes, Wycombe Swan is a theatre.

Please seek support. You deserve better than that life xx

This is from the Wycombe Womens Aid website.
Refuge - 01494 461367
Outreach - 07890 456907
IDVA - 07483 159153
www.wycombewomensaid.org.uk/

I hope she finds the strength.

Hope the lady in question sees helpful PPs above

I was that woman once...2 guys intervened and he beat the crap out of them. Then of course, me. I got out. I hope that poor woman sees this, and realises that IT CAN BE DONE. YOU CAN GET OUT LOVELY.

If they were at a theatre, do you know where they were sitting? I'm just wondering if you contacted the police they could find out who they were any maybe go and have a word with her? But would that be OTT?

Yes, best not to intervene, see pp! Who got beaten up for it. The police turning up will come with consequences

Thankyou so much for contributing and bumping. Some heartbreaking stories.

I am so concerned for her, I don’t know if I can write here publicly the things he said. The tone he used was beyond vile. Agressive. It was the way he said everything that actually got attention.

About 10 people witnessed it & he threatened to hurt anyone that intervened. That young woman was limping, physically hurt. By him? Probably.

If I gave the police the seat number anonymously, would the police realistically do anything, safely, that won’t risk her safety any more than it already is? Would the theatre hand out her name to the police? It was obvious she had bought the tickets, from what he said.

So many questions and the more I think about it the more worrying it is.

Trying to think of a way to reach put to her.

If anyone is on the High wycombe FB page can they post a link to this? Can that be done anonymously? I don’t do FB.

If you know anyone there, can you send them this link to post, maybe?

Was it Psychic Sallie OP? In the theatre i mean...?

If you’re a trollhunter please take it up with MNHQ who will confirm I have been using this site genuinely for a very long time with no issues. Multiple namechanges over 10 years.

If you’re trying to contribute productively to help this lady, that would be great.