Got back with my first husband after 28yrs

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We were in the army together in Germany both 20yrs old got pregnant married all in 1yr split up never heard from him again hasn't seen his son since the day we split he found me on face book 28yrs later,we both left our long term partners for each other our son who hasn't seen his dad has his mum and dad back together,you can never make up the time lost,you have to treat it like a new relationship or it won't last you can't live in the passed,two years now we have been living back together,both different people from before I was very surprised at this it's been hard but we both love each other very much

Ok.
Congratulations?

Or was there a question?
I do wonder how one totally walks out on a child. Adult relationships break down - and that is Ok.
But - 28years no contact with a child is totally unforgivable for me.
I had an absentee dad myself.
So maybe I am not objective.

How is it you have been back together for 2 years and DS is unaware of it?

Expect him to be cross when he finds out, and rightly so.

Ridiculous. How is your son supposed to feel? That he didn't deserve a relationship with his dad on his own merit, but it's happening now because of the romantic relationship with you?

I could never make a lasting relationship with a man who deserted his son. Don’t be surprised if your son wants nothing to do with the pair of you, it isn’t the fairytale romance you are perhaps thinking it is? It all sounds a bit ridiculous and seedy.

Hmm

we both left our long term partners for each other our son who hasn't seen his dad has his mum and dad back together

Paragraphs and punctuation are your friend.

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You’re 48?

Your son has his mum and dad back together.

Yer he must be chuffed

He left you and his son without a backward glance. Left his last partner as well. Sounds delightful.

Your poor son.

Nope. I tell a lie, you’re 51
Married at 20,

Split up at 21
Found on Facebook 28 years later so 49
Live together for two years so 51.

Yet you write like a love struck teenage.

Yes your 31 year old son must be delighted you’re back together. Maybe you can get him a train set for Christmas.

I'm sure your grown adult son will be over the moon

Oooooooookay.

Oh this sounds a bit like my life...but I was the child. My mum was with my biological father in her late teens early 20's untill my grandfather who had a hatred for Catholics forced them to separate and found a man they thought was more "suitable" for marriage 🙄. A few years later while her husband was locked up for abusing her she had an affair with my biological dad....long story short I was conceived husband gets out I live my life thinking that her husband (who she finally did leave when I was two) was my dad, always wishing that mums good "friend" was because he was always in my life and treated me like his daughter. Little did I know that I was. Fast forward to me at 17...they actually get back together (I'm still completely unaware of the real situation) I was happy that mum was happy. But in 2001 he passed away it's not until then that I was told the truth...I was so angry that it was kept from me so I spoke to family members and it was confirmed. My mum passed away just a few years after he did and the explanation I got was that it had to remain a secret because my grandfather hated him so much.

Yep - your son must be thrilled that the man who dumped his mother AND him and didn't bother for 28 years, has just slid back into your lives again . Good luck with that.

OP, sorry, can you run that by me again?

This is awful for your son.

Not gone the way you had expected here op? Wonder why?

As well as your son, I also feel sorry for both of your ex-partners. Did either of you go in to have more children? Are they expected to be delighted too?

This can't be real.

I agree. I’m hoping it’s a creative writing exercise.

Weird post OP.
What about your long term partner who presumably will be much closer to your son than his absentee father?