Got back with my first husband after 28yrs

[Moorsue]

We were in the army together in Germany both 20yrs old got pregnant married all in 1yr split up never heard from him again hasn't seen his son since the day we split he found me on face book 28yrs later,we both left our long term partners for each other our son who hasn't seen his dad has his mum and dad back together,you can never make up the time lost,you have to treat it like a new relationship or it won't last you can't live in the passed,two years now we have been living back together,both different people from before I was very surprised at this it's been hard but we both love each other very much

Hang on. So he fucked off, didn't see his son and only came back when his son was an adult? Why would your son be happy that his mother and the man who is his biological father, but a waste of space are back together?

So he isn't fucking interested in his child at at all, just you. And you are happy to accept a man, who fucked off his own child?

And you had an affair? So you both fucked over your long term partners?

Why the fuck would you brag about about your shitty choices and the shitty behaviour you both are displaying.

Have you ever thought about appearing on Jeremy Kyle?

He’ll leave again, you know that, right?

Krissy

Normally I would say you choose your partner and your adult dc have no say. This is very different. I pity your ds. You’ve set your bar vey low op. Very low. Time to come clean. Time for your boyfriend to grovel to your son. Maybe you can move on from this. But don’t be surprised if your ds goes nc.

I don’t think I’d want to have a relationship with another person who just dumped their child and didn’t keep in contact - is be thinking what sort of person would do that?

Not like he can say that the ex was a right cow bag

you can never make up the time lost,you have to treat it like a new relationship or it won't last you can't live in the passed

Perhaps a wee bit premature to be dishing out romantic advice to the rest of us eh?

YOU’RE giving us relationship advice? Can I ask you one thing — how on earth do you treat it like a ‘new thing’ when you’re back with someone who deserted his son for three decades and is only aware he exists now because he’s all loved up with you?

Go for it
What could go wrong ?

He sounds like a real catch. Same as you.

I doubt your son sees him as much of a dad to be honest.

If I was the son, my mum getting together with the man who abandoned me would damage my relationship with my mum.

I might not say something, because it's really her decision. But it would change how I view her.

Also the fact that she cheated to get together with this loser, would change my view of her.

And I would pity her. Given that she thinks he is her happy ending. I would be sad that she set her standards so low.

We are both good friends with our ex partner we both had partners that at the time our relationships had not been working for years ,me and [redacted] see my ex every couple of weeks we help each other out and do coffee all's happy good friendship ,you don't have to end on badness ism happy to say,[redacted] ex has you d a lovely man and shed really happy he never had anymore children

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It was strange at first for my son but he's 30yrs now his dad goes down most Saturdays they go out do stuff we all go out,[redacted] has been helping our son with his extention at the moment ,you can't take back the years but you can build on wot you have all is good ,you see he wanted his dad all those years ,but they are building their life forward it's really nice to see

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@Moorsue

So - what specifically is your question?
Or is that an announcement?

My DC's dad fucked off too and has had nothing to do with him. I would rather choke to death on dog shit than so much as hold his hand. You have totally and utterly betrayed your poor son.

Where 50 now been living together and working together for 2 years ,sometimes life throws a curve ball all our families are happy our kids our ex partners too ,who's getting hurt ,nobody

He left you and his son without a backward glance. Left his last partner as well. Sounds delightful

Your poor son

This was my thoughts too

Wow ok. So your partner turns his back on his child and you leap into his arms after all this time? How can you have any respect for such a man? Did your ex raise your son if so then he is your child’s father not this fair weather prat. I hope it works out but you have some seriously low standards

What's your point?

How random.

Wtf . No bloody clue what you’re post for. Please also use punctuation and paragraphs- it’s so hard to read. It’s like the bloody never ending sentences!

My dad died when I was little and I would do anything for one day with him. I hold no grudges because it’s not a decision he chose to make. However if he had walked out and wanted to walk back into my life now I would have nothing to do with him. If my mum wasn’t prepared to accept the fact that I wanted no relationship and enable a relationship separate of him I would go no contact with her too.

Whilst I do think sometimes relationships can work after people split and get back together, if both parties are able to start a fresh. But in this case going no contact as a parent I wouldn’t be able to forgive or forget and I would be waiting for him to leave again.

He’s treated you like a puppet on a string. He wasn’t happy in his relationship so he found you on Facebook and you went running back.

Darren? Is he related to Sharon?

Ah Dazza. See he was just a misunderstood bloke. But now the fam bam is back together and everyone is happy - including the ex partners that got dumped. It's a wonderful life.

...and?