Could be that the role models for women as they grew up were men that were not thoughtful or good at showing emotion and didn't do their share in the household.
Could be that there has traditionally been a cultural expectation in the UK that men didn't need to be thoughtful or good at showing emotion or do their share in the household.
This is my mother. Not UK, but it's not unique to here, obviously. She married my father (whom I realised well into adulthood when another family member was diagnosed is on the autistic spectrum) at nineteen, having been brought up in a very traditional rural society to think that the best a woman could hope for was marriage, and that the best husband she could hope for was a provider who was not a drinker. She grew up in a world of wordless, emotionally-stunted men who provided what little money there was coming in, and whose word was law in the house, got the lion's share of the best food, the first bathwater, could not be sexually gainsaid. and who virtually never talked, other than about work or sport to other men, certainly not to their wives.
She is entirely baffled and not entirely approving at my four degrees and professional career, and the fact that I'm not a people pleaser, as well as by my husband, who likes to talk, and does all the cooking and food shopping, and, at the moment, the lion's share of the childcare and laundry.
I've come to understand that my refusal to settle for what she settled for makes her unconsciously angry and resentful.