I've posted here before about trust issues with my fiance but he has always managed to talk me round. It seems he is a Jedi master at persuasion. We're about to buy a beautiful house together and get married next year. Everyone loves him and I mean EVERYONE - my kids, my family, my friends. He is very jovial and kind hearted, but in many ways is incredibly selfish:
- he makes decisions unilaterally, often informing me of them after the fact
- he has lied to me repeatedly, some of the lies have been small and insignificant, some have been whoppers.
- we don't really have a lot in common and our conversation is often superficial, whereas I love nothing more than a good deep conversation
- he works incredibly hard and that seeps massively into our home life. That won't ever change.
- he has had problems in the past with putting appropriate boundaries in place with other women. He is flirtatious and his inappropriately close friendship with another woman almost ended a marriage.
- he is very 'blokeish' and can often act like a teenager when other people ask about our relationship - like it's embarrassing
On the flip side he can be incredibly generous and thoughtful, but it seems like every week (and sometimes multiple times a week) i get hurt feelings about something he has said or done.
But because so many other people love him and are cheering for us, I'm honestly concerned that I am sabotaging a good relationship. This would be my second marriage, but I've had lots of previous healthy relationships - I think I know what they look and feel like. Surely the fact that I am so unhappy and anxious says something?
Has anyone else broken off an engagement and really regretted it?