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Afternoon date (sixth date) rather than evening - is it a bit odd?

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RubyN · 07/11/2018 19:11

Posted previously about seeing a guy who is a virgin and last time I saw him said he wanted to slow things down. He also said he wasn't sure he was ready for a relationship but really likes me & is happy with where things are going. I'm not desperate to leap into another relationship either so this is ok for the moment & I love spending time with him.

But this weekend he has asked me for an afternoon date? Now suddenly I'm wondering if he's dating someone else in the evening OR if its his way of keeping me at arm's length. I mean, we had a heavy make out session on the last date, but had work the next day. The fact he is not asking me to meet in the evening, an obvious time to increase intimacy a little after the date, makes me wonder how interested he actually is.

And yet he has been in contact every day. I actually decided to take some space this week and he called me more! Am I being stupid, do I need to just go with the flow or is it weird?

OP posts:
PolkaDoting · 10/11/2018 14:51

Because he doesn’t want a relationship.

RubyN · 10/11/2018 14:57

But I'm suggesting we do similar things to what we're doing now...all the snuggling, kissing etc, except indoors...because I am not completely comfortable with outdoors PDA. I'm not saying it has to lead to more.

Also he says he doesn't want a relationship. But be behaves like a boyfriend. We went on a date last night & he asked me to accompany him to an event with his friends today - I said no due to other plans and also because I am not his girlfriend...

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Noodella18 · 11/11/2018 11:49

‘He says he doesn’t want a relationship but...”

This is an absolute classic - seriously, google it and there are thousands of advice pieces which will tell you not to kid yourself, to take him at his word, have some self respect and just move on. You won’t, because you still feel there’s a tiny bit of hope there, but you really should.

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