If your husband said he was planning ‘something as a family’...

[Hattie78]

Hi
Things are very strained atm, there are a lot of problems in the marriage. Husband said to me on Thursday he’d like to plan something that we could do ‘as a family’ on Sunday so I thought he was making an effort.
If your husband said this to you, what kind of thing would you expect? I wonder if I’m being unreasonable for being very disappointed by what actually happened.
Thanks in advance.

I’d expect that we’d go for a walk, maybe with tea and cake or lunch depending on what time. Maybe cinema if there was something we all wanted to see.

What happened?

Day out or an activity we would all go to.

That would be my guess.

I’d assume something like a walk, a day out all together somewhere like the zoo, lunch or dinner out maybe?

A day out somewhere to a place of interest? Cinema or bowling?

I wouldn’t think it was a particular thing, just that the whole family would be involved and it would be something everyone would like.

I'd expect a day trip: beach, museum, lunch, bowling etc etc.

I suppose he's arsed this up, hasn't he?

Something low key but 'together'.

So come on then, what happened?

Come on, OP - tell us!

Did he take you all to church?

A family walk, going out for breakfast or lunch, maybe an activity / day trip depending on finances

Did he plan something with his family ie his parents?

I’d assume going out somewhere together. That would be my preference but I’d accept a board game and a meal together at home at a push.

A walk, lunch out, the zoo that is the type of thing I’d expect

Well I expect I'd fall off my chair, as DH NEVER says or does this, but that aside I would take it to mean go somewhere or do something all together as a family, no specifics. What happened?

A walk, visit to an attraction like national Trust, football match, going to the park together, tea at a cafe, lunch at a pub. With me dh and children.

I'd expect a full day our or a nice meal out. If it was just a walk then it wouldn't be a surprise.

We’d go out for tea or to the cinema. Although I don’t have a husband!

Doing something together. Eg going to a museum/long walk/just hanging out

A family activity, like a walk or lunch out

Something different to usual and something we would likely all enjoy. Even if it were just digging out the board games.

I would expect something nice for the whole family particularly for the kids.

Any activity with our immediate family. Even if it's just putting on the fire and watching movies at home.

So I'm guessing you all washed the car ?
Or perhaps, cleaned all the shoes in the house ?

Go on, you know you want to tell us ..........

It's not one size fits all though.

I would be thinking movie night/afternoon, cinema, walk maybe lunch out.

My best friend would be happy going to the local rugby club, having a drink and letting the kids play with their friends kids.

One person's idea, isn't the same as other people's.

Anything that involved spending time together. In a nice way.

Anything that we do together, playing board games, going for a walk, th cinema. Depends on timings and finances and what we all fancy doing.
Tbh I am quite happy just to relax at home watching films if we are all together and fancy a quiet one.