So I'm the ow and I told his girlfriend d

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I am totally prepared to be flamed.

Met him 2 years ago whilst in an abusive relationship with my DC dad .

The father of my DC gaslighted , cheated and abused the shit out of me. So much I trust no one. We were together 8 years. Things were pretty shit towards the end.

I met other man through work. He chased me and I said no I had a partner etc. Eventually gave him my number. Suppose I fell for the attention of what I thought was a real life lovely man.

I Left my ex not specifically to be with him, but just has my eyes opened there was nice men around. My ex was raging I'd finally had the balls and left. My ex then threatened me he would post nudes of me on fb etc. A few weeks later I got a call from my ex saying his new gf was pregnant and told me her due date( which obviously meant he had cheated on me/-- but as he said the doctors always get the dates wrong 🙄🙄🙄) Low and behold he'd actually been cheating on me.

Other man was my rock. Then found out he wasn't single but sure it was too late I'd fallen for him. I should have called it off. I've no self respect at all.

This was 2 years ago and has been going on ever since

He said he couldnt leave his gf as he was afraid of loosing his child. And I believed him. And put up with accepting little crumbs.

He then started getting jealous that I was single and may possibly date people. For example last week I didn't reply to his txt for 3 hrs on WhatsApp. When I finally replied he then ignored me. Turns out he thought I was on a date. And got jealous. He then messaged me through the week saying he knows our affair will be over when I meet someone and he feels like a stop gap. I told him he could be with me if he wanted but he is choosing not to be.

went out with work friends last night. And he started messaging saying how he hoped I got some sex and just being nasty as fuck. I was drunk by this point and screen shot a load of whatapps and sent them to his girlfriend. My frame of mind was saying how the fuck dare he be jealous of me when he is the one with a girlfriend??????

I'm so ashamed. Why did I not just block and delete him?! He text me and said she has left him and not to contact him again.

OP if you took screen shots of your conversations could they still be in your photo album on your phone?

Shammy1b it is never right to carry out an action that will cause injury to another person. So a cheater and the OW/OM are both in the wrong. The cheater slightly more so.

OP you definitely did the GF a favour by telling her.
As others have said if you are in a large company I would report the threat to HR or management in case his revenge is professional in form.

The hell with it OP, sending screenshots wasnt classy and you should have walked away ages ago but the main thing is it's done now.

Forget about him, forget about her. They are not your problem.

Take a break from dating, get some counselling, take up a hobby you always wanted to try and just generally work on having a lovely life.

Serves him right. Block him and now time for you to move on and make the best of your life.

So it’s okay to really hurt someone, the gf, by sleeping with their boyfriend for years knowingly? Of course he bf is also to blame, but having an affair is selfish and nasty.

OP you have had loads of sympathy. However I do think you’ll never truly grow and find happiness if you haven’t really, really understood that you have also personal responsibility for cheating. I don’t see that you are quite there yet.

You'll be fine OP... He's THE Dick

Did op name change on this thread to have a go at people that think it's wrong to knowingly cheat for 2 years?

I don't think so.. I can still see all the blue box responses...