I feel stupid and pathetic for even writing such a thread but I feel so worn down by his excuses and minimising I don't even know what to think anymore.
I snooped through his phone and found messages of him texting multiple women asking for sex. He was sending pictures of his dick and just generally acting like someone I don't even know. He doesn't talk to me like that so I was really shocked by what I found. He has a pain condition (as a result of a back problem), which affects him a little sexually but we have sex regularly so his excuse to all this sexting is that "I'm not even up to it am I?" Doesn't make sense. He said it was just escapism, boredom, never intended for any of it to go further. But 2/3 women he was messaging he has slept with before he had met me.
We haven't been together long...he says I've been wanting to break up the whole time but my gut instinct just kept telling me something was off for various different things. From making comments about my weight one time. One time he said "gosh you have some extra tyres there" obviously he said it was all banter and not a put down like I told him it was. I'm fat I know that. But he met me on a BBW dating site, so what does he expect?
But now it feels like I'm being blamed for acting untrusting in the past towards him when in actual fact he was making me FEEL like I should be untrusting if that makes sense?
I don't want to seem like a victim so I'm sorry if I come across that way, but I'm so, so, tired and confused. He also tells me he wasn't happy because "I don't listen" I already suffer with anxiety and depression and today has got me wanting to just curl up in bed and not face the world.