My husband keeps look at pictures of his ex girlfriend who he dated when we separated, should I be worried he is still in love with her?

[Evelynjean]

My husband and I separated a couple of years ago for around a year, he began dating a younger woman who he was obsessed with. After a year of separation we reconciled as we wanted to give it another shot for the sake of our children and have moved two hours away from his ex girlfriend.
I thought we were happy as we have had a great few weekends together recently and he takes photos of us and posts them on social media as if he wants to show us happiness and proclaiming his love for me.
However over the past 4 months I have caught him regularly gazing at pictures on Instagram of his ex girlfriend (he doesn’t know I’ve seen him doing it).
I am worried he is still in love with her as he hasn’t seen her in over a year and I would have thought given it’s been a while since he has seen her he would be able to put her out of his mind? Sure after a year of not seeing someone you would gradually forget about them?

I'd be concerned too.

I’d be unhappy about this and it certainly seems to suggest he still has feelings for her. Perhaps it’s worth chatting to him about how he is feeling in general and see where you go from there.

Yes I'd definitely be concerned. Can you bring it up with him?

Yep. He misses her/ wants her back.

I do this with my ex's photo because I'm not happy with my current relationship.

Yeah, this is a bit off. I’m sorry

There are usually reasons to look at photos of someone you once loved, you say he was obsessed and don’t mention love (is this just what he’s told you?)
I think you can miss someone and love them and yet know that wasn’t the life for you.
But that’s tough on you. Do you really feel that he truly loves you.

I’m not sure, some people are just nosey and like to keep tabs on what their ex are up to etc. It might be he’s just doing exactly that. Unless there was anything else I’d maybe mention it to him then take it from there

@Thebluedog
I agree, but this was only a year ago and he’s supposed to be reunited and working on his marriage.
It’s not the same as a sneaky look 5 years down the line.

Even though he posts photos of us saying how much he loves me? Although I was concerned he did this because he knows his ex can see this and was trying to make her jealous. 😭

i always think it's a bit odd when men are gushing about being in love on facebook and one of the frequenter gushers i knew turned out to a proper rat dating a few different women behind his wife's back.

Did she dump him or he her, do you know the truth of it? What brought you back together? Was he being forced to be apart from the kids? Was he financially stable on his own?

And yes I'd say its worrying.

Oh dear op. That makes it worse, if you think he’s doing it to make her jealous. Yes than that means it’s not ok.
But I might be wrong, only you move him.
But I think tbe question of what actually happened to their relationship is pertinent

Only your know him !

I know he was in love with her. I could tell. We got back there together when he and his brother had a falling out and he had no where to live. He couldn’t stay with her as she still lived with her parents.

Yeah totes.

I don’t know really. It’s youre relationship, but never be someone’s back up plan. You’re worth more than that.
Did you do any counselling together?

So yea I took him in and our son also had a pendacitus at the time and that when we agreed to give it another shot. I do think initially it was for the sake of the children but as I said I thought we were happy as he seems to want to tell the world how much he loves me.

Yeah that's not good op, do you feel he is with you due to circumstance rather than desire? Why did he have no where to live? Could he not sustain himself financially?

The social media stuff I'd consider as protesting too much, trying to convince himself as much as anyone else.

Even though he posts photos of us saying how much he loves me?

Who’s he trying to convince?

So they only split because he had nowhere to go?

He broke up with her but I have to admit I wasn’t overly pleased about his new relationship, nothing to do with her as annoying she seemed very lovely. But looking back I didn’t make it easy for him.

Unfortunately initially I think it was circumstance but I was hoping that would change the longer he was away from her. Recently I thought I was more desire but now I’m not to sure given his compulsion towards her.

Not straight away, him and his brother fell out and he couldn’t live with him anymore. And our son was unwell so I let him stay with us and as a result we agreed to try again.

You've posted about this before, haven't you?
He doesn't sound committed to you and is showing you a lack of respect.
Find someone who loves you.

Doesn’t really sound like he loves anyone. If he really loved her not having somewhere to stay wouldn’t have stopped him.

It sounds like a standard “I’ll stay wherever is the easiest for me”

if she’d had her own place and he could have moved in, likely he would of done that. Not sure I would want to with be someone like that