My husband keeps look at pictures of his ex girlfriend who he dated when we separated, should I be worried he is still in love with her?

[Evelynjean]

My husband and I separated a couple of years ago for around a year, he began dating a younger woman who he was obsessed with. After a year of separation we reconciled as we wanted to give it another shot for the sake of our children and have moved two hours away from his ex girlfriend.
I thought we were happy as we have had a great few weekends together recently and he takes photos of us and posts them on social media as if he wants to show us happiness and proclaiming his love for me.
However over the past 4 months I have caught him regularly gazing at pictures on Instagram of his ex girlfriend (he doesn’t know I’ve seen him doing it).
I am worried he is still in love with her as he hasn’t seen her in over a year and I would have thought given it’s been a while since he has seen her he would be able to put her out of his mind? Sure after a year of not seeing someone you would gradually forget about them?

I don't think your relationship is working is it?

Even the lack of emotion you express having found him looking at his ex gf, and possibly being in love with her still tells me you also are not terribly in love with him either.

Possibly your relationship has come to the end of the road on both sides.

I wouldn't want to spend the rest of my life (upwards of forty years) living like this.

But he doesn’t even follow her and not it doesn’t say how many times. But you you post a picture on Instagram stories not her eonce ince a short space of time but not necessarily at the same time and a person and seen all of them it would suggest they have looked it at one and then come back a little while later to look again and see the other.

When you say you were difficult and manipulative as an Ex wife, did you make it difficult for him to see the children?

What caused the split in the first place? Was it a mutual decision to split?

If he doesn’t follow her then he is actively searching her profile every day and watching her story.

You’re second best. He’s clearly in love with another woman by you’re own omission you made things difficult maybe with the kids and he came back when he had no where else to go for an easier life. I don’t mean to be blunt but it’s what I gathered from the information you posted. You don’t deserve to be feeling second best op.

He’s still obsessed with her and you’re obsessed with how many times he’s looked at her Instagram! It’s ridiculous! Why would you want to be with somebody who truly wants somebody else? What a sad life for everybody. He’s only with you because he had nowhere else to live! You’ve been used. For God’s sakes have more pride. Make him move out. If he’s not back with her within a few weeks then you’ve got your answer but honestly, you should make him live on his own as it sounds like he’s gone from his brother to you...when his brother couldn’t house him why didn’t he just rent his own place? He took the easy road which was to move back in with you. Don’t be a chump!

It doesn't sound like he respects her much. He was happy to be with her when it was easy but ditched her as soon as it got difficult.

I think perhaps you would both be better off without him.

I was defending him (in my head) until you said that he doesn't even follow her on Instagram, but one morning saw 4 of her stories?

I presume he knows that she can see who has viewed her stories?
Aside from you (and genuinely I as a MN'etter only care about you) but has he not considered how uncomfortable that must make her feel? I'd consider that to be pretty inappropriate and quite stalkerish. The reason I say that is because I have a male acquaintance from a hobby of mine, I don't know him at all (we've never spoken) but our group all follow one another on Instagram. He always looks at all my stories, he's ALWAYS the first person to have seen them. They are hardly ever related to the hobby, (actually, about as unrelated as you can get) they're quite mundane, and it does rather unnerve me that he's looking through them ALL THE TIME. I should mention too that he's also happily married and most of his posts are him gushing about his wife. Of course I look through people's stories too, but it's the frequency of it and how quickly they 'see' them that's odd, especially when you know that they'll know that you know they're doing it. Sorry for complicating matters and going off topic
Surely he's making his ex very uncomfortable?

Anyway, back to you (sorry for de railing) Yes, I'd say he absolutely has strong feelings or even is infatuated with her. I don't think that means he would be unfaithful, but at the same time, I understand how it must make you feel.

You can definitely get info on who has looked at your insta stories as a guy at work got caught out looking at a girl at work’s stories even though he didn’t follow her.

I don’t think I could cope with this to be honest, for this to work he needed to block her and move on, not spend all his time looking at her photos and videos.