My daughter becoming a teenager and DH

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My DD is 14. Over the past couple of years she has been finding her dad (my H) extremely difficult. It's hard to explain but it's things about him that I've ALWAYS found irritating but now my daughter is quite enraged by him and I'm actually telling her I understand what she means and it's infuriating. I know this is bad but suddenly I don't feel alone- someone understands. The sort of things I mean is that he talks over you and then gets angry if you do it to him. Another is that if you're trying to tell him something he butts in and tries to "guess" what you're about to say. There are loads of other things that he does but I can't list them all.

Has anyone else been in this situation? It's like watching my DD struggle with him has made me realise how bad he can be with communication with others. I

Wish there was a "like" button ravenmum

It’s not bitching, it’s calling out bad behaviour.

Your DH is the one in the wrong, and why shouldn’t 2 people agree that his behaviour is bad?

Mmmmmm another take on all of it: do you think he might have ADD (read about it)? The behaviours you described do fit the ADDs symptoms. (I know about ADD because my son has it. He is a great affectionate, compassionate and considerate teenage of 14 who uses humor to smooth and somehow can manage his ADD-with the help of Ritaline and love and talks. We realised he has ADD when he was a toddler-so we took care of it from.an early age....) And as you know and wise ladies here said before me: your daughter is just a 14 year child and your husband is her dad. It is important to stress out the good stuff he does for her and you....Good Luck

Shutting someone down over mixing up the Olympics and the Commonwealth Games seems rather bullying to me. Plus the gossiping. I'm not sure we're seeing the whole picture here but that conversation excerpt was telling

All this talk of gossiping...it's not gossiping! And the Olympic games thing was a different poster.

Busybarbara has some controversial opinions and is keen to share them widely :)

Believe me, I am used to it, I support transgender rights so it's like being a lightning rod here in TERFville

You must love it in TERFville to spend so much time here Barbara.

Well I've stayed in this country and its full of similarly bigoted xenophobic Brexiteers so why not

Well, we all read into a thread what we bring with us.

Really not sure why transgenderism and associated topics are being brought up in this thread which is nothing to do with trans people?

I think it is connected to the ironic idea that everyone on the site but busybarbara is very small-minded.